Wow, looks like she's putting you on the spot. Choose her or the flying job. Sorry to hear that, because I believe IMHO that in a relationship, you support one another in their likes, interests, and dreams. You don't squash them, and say "no" you can't do it. I'm not in your shoes, so only you can decide what's best for you.
As an example, I ride motorcycles, and thank goodness, my wife likes them too. Dangerous, yes, but so is flying, driving, climbing, etc. Every time I talk to someone, who shows an interest in motorcycles, but then says "my wife or girlfriend won't let me ride", I shake my head in disbelief. Yeah, I'm not in their relationship, but for me, I'm not going to let anybody tell me what I cannot do, even my significant other. If she wants to go skydive, I'll say "hell yes, go for it", although you won't ever find me doing that! It's called "living life to the fullest".
As a side note, what about transitioning as an internal FAA person to the flight check position? I've applied to the position before, but being a non-veteran, leaves me pretty much out of luck there. I'm assuming that you would have a shot as an internal employee. I recall seeing the position posted for internals recently too.
One other thing about flying at least on the airline side, timing and seniority IS everything.
Good luck with your decision!
The ultimatum is never a good thing. It's good she's being honest with you, but using that kind of force to make a point is a bad sign in my opinion. It will just show up again and again for other decisions in the relationship..believe me, I know that first hand. Do what will make you happy. You don't want to be on your deathbed years from now wondering "could I have? I should have..." If what you want truly with NO RESERVATIONS is to be with this girl over being an airline pilot then do it. If what you want is to be an airline pilot, then do it whole heartedly. Building your life around another person is usually not the greatest thing to do. Neither is building it around money. Be Happy.
You're welcome. The only payment I require is your bright, high-earning, and hopefully hot girlfriend's number after she dumps you because you because you ran off to join the freak show and press buttons for $25k/year. Seriouly, dude, rethink this. Keep rethinking it until you stop concluding that operating an aviation appliance will make you "happy". I've met a lot of pilots over the years, and I've yet to meet ONE who is "happy" because they fly an airplane every day. In most of the happy cases, it seems to be in spite of the fact that they fly an airplane every day.
In your situation with the bridge to Pinnacle, you have a golden ticket to the airlines!
Yes, pay and QOL will suck big time at the regionals,
Id like to say that aviation may have been the downfall of one of my relationships, but that just wouldnt be true. I think that was a sinking ship before I started the whole career.
Id say screw the airlines and focus on family. To each their own my friend.
Is it worth it to you to lose your woman and fly a plane? Is it worth it to YOU to keep your woman and maybe not fly a plane?
I wonder if other careers have these arguments....
P.S. Thanks for the woman's POV elationaviation! I'm glad you chimed in as a third party female perspective is critically important.
The lady and I talked about it over the weekend. Long story short, she basically said she would leave me if I went to the airlines. She told me she didn't want that lifestyle as a future wife and that the career sucks (after me sending her every resource imaginable such as "The Truth About The Profession"). She said I would be going to the airlines for selfish reasons and that it would benefit no one but possibly myself. OUCH! The truth hurts.
I talked to a pilot friend of mine the other day and he said to take a sabbatical from the government job and go fly for a year to see how it is. He said it's not a job, it's a lifestyle. He also told me it's a lonely job living out of a suitcase in hotels. That's the stuff I want to hear about that I am not seeing or thinking about from you guys on JC.
It sounds to me like the lifestyle sucks but the flying is fun. I'm not sure I want that kind of lifestyle.
With the 1500 hour rule probably going into effect in 2013 and the 65 age limitation causing retirees, now might be a good time if ever. But is it worth it? No risk no reward?
Women/men are a dime a dozen. Since she is a "future wife" and not yet a wife, you have no committment to be given ultimatums.....unless you place it on yourself. DO what will make YOU happy, not what will make someone else happy. You don't live your life for them........yet.
They've been together for quite some time. Besides... sometimes marriage equals nothing more than a legal document. Please take into consideration the fact that she gave up the chance to go to a big time med school just to be near him. I've made sacrifices like that as well. Do I regret it? Hell no.
It boils down to your relationship with each other. How much rope can each of you pull before it breaks? There are people here who are giving you excellent advice and I'll be the first to say that most of it is probably biased (I know mine is). Yes, I fly. Would I sacrifice my relationship for aviation? No. But that's my choice/decision/etc.. Someone here who isn't in a relationship would probably say go for the career switch.
The best part is you're getting a ton of PoVs on the subject. That's what it's all about.