Oxman
Well-Known Member
What do you do when you have family members (my nephews mom) that only call when they need me?
She has always been this way. At one point over time, between my nephew and her I had 6 calls to her to say hi and since he was 16, a few texts to him just to say hi and stay involved. Not one response. By the way, she'll text,but when called back it goes right to voice mail. Now since he just got himself into a bit of some legal issues she calls me with the standard "I don't know what to do". Well, everything I suggested in the past few years ie. counseling, would have prevented this. But she never does what I tell her to do when she says I don't know what to do.
Why does she call me? My brother (his father) past away a few years ago and I've always been there for him since he was born. But over the years he's grown a little more angry for several reasons. One his mom. She has 2 volumes to her voice with him, off and yell. She's a bit compulsive when it comes to anything with dirt on it and gets up his a** about it. So all this has built up into a bunch of resentment in addition to his HUGE sense of entitlement. Which is something I've tried to stop since he was a kid. I would tell everybody to stop giving him things. Well, now that grew into entitlement. And now he's 18, angry and entitled. All of this I saw coming and tried to prevent but no one would listen.
She has always been this way. At one point over time, between my nephew and her I had 6 calls to her to say hi and since he was 16, a few texts to him just to say hi and stay involved. Not one response. By the way, she'll text,but when called back it goes right to voice mail. Now since he just got himself into a bit of some legal issues she calls me with the standard "I don't know what to do". Well, everything I suggested in the past few years ie. counseling, would have prevented this. But she never does what I tell her to do when she says I don't know what to do.
Why does she call me? My brother (his father) past away a few years ago and I've always been there for him since he was born. But over the years he's grown a little more angry for several reasons. One his mom. She has 2 volumes to her voice with him, off and yell. She's a bit compulsive when it comes to anything with dirt on it and gets up his a** about it. So all this has built up into a bunch of resentment in addition to his HUGE sense of entitlement. Which is something I've tried to stop since he was a kid. I would tell everybody to stop giving him things. Well, now that grew into entitlement. And now he's 18, angry and entitled. All of this I saw coming and tried to prevent but no one would listen.