But what you told me about kids vs wife was absolutely brilliant.
This sounds like information the whole board can use. Spill it
@ozziecat35 !
Yeah, I need all the help i can get and I don't even have kids.
The details are a little fuzzy as some adult beverages were involved, then
@mattc206 finally answered his phone and got his butt over to
@derg and I, but I digress.
Listen, this job is awesome, but it takes its toll on the family regardless of how much we mold our schedules, how senior we get, etc. I left full time IT 6 years ago to finally chase the airline dream. I was home every night, but I knew I'd never be really happy until I was able to at least get a shot at full time aviation. Now, I can honestly say I bring home a better version of me after a trip vs walking in from the office. I'm not getting emails to reset passwords at all hours and dealing with the same inanity that full time IT left me with ( and I was at a good, government gig.)
When my wife and I had kids, I knew I wanted to be a better father than my dad was. That's not to say I wasn't provided for, but having parents divorce when you're 4 years old, and not getting the best examples of family / parenthood definitely stick with you, even if you don't realize it at the time. Based on that, I learned to keep dating my wife. It's so easy in the middle of the absolute battle of attrition that is parenthood, to become roommates with your spouse. My kids learned that they are not the most important people in my life. Their mom is. We try and go out on dates every month, I take my her on a cruise every year. The kids get to come every other year. The first year they objected, I told them this: "Before we were ever Mom and Dad, we were husband and wife and boyfriend / girlfriend before that. In order to be the best mom and dad we can be, we need to go away, and remember what it's like to be husband and wife."
Like this isn't new information, but it's easy to get lost sometimes when you're in the middle of building a career or raising kids. I also know I depend on my wife for a lot. She has a lot on her plate when I'm at work, essentially living her dream in a hotel with no one asking me for anything. I figured out a couple years ago, that when I'm at work, that's my time to relax, any recreation at home like golf, hockey, or woodworking is bonus. When I drive home, I get my head right, because the weather and MEL's don't matter anymore, cause that got left at the gate. When I walk in the door, someone is gonna need something. I am now dad. I coach little league when I can, I bid weekends so I'm home during the week to make lunches and get kids to school. I shuttle the practices as much as I can when I can, because when I'm gone, it's ALL on her.
Oh, and I also don't let win at MarioKart...#nofreerides