Okay okay, I feel like its time to interject here. Everyone knows text is a poor medium to communicate, look what happened to me when I made a snide remark about a CFI who flew his plane into the ground after being charged with assault. I said the wrong thing at the wrong time.
Relating a surprise to pilot-decision making is rude, however, we all know about rain coats, pills, and pulling out (which works when you commit to it...), you know the risks before getting involved. Bad planning leads to surprises. But, I know what pregnancy scares feel like and, well, our new friend doesn't need lecturing. Surprises are a hard way to learn fast.
I see
@knot4u 's point per se, he's suggesting our new friend focus more on his kid rather than a dream. Everyone knows you become second banana when you have children, you should, as a good parent, put them first when necessary. So perhaps ensuring stability in his childs life should be more important.
HOWEVER, our friend is at the age when he doesn't have an education. He has nothing to bring to the table in terms of education or qualifications to the job market. Learning to fly will allow for him to do just that, and we all know that education and qualifications allow us to provide more for our families. This is what
@ppragman is trying to say.
tl;dr Essentially at short distance it looks like a bad move for this guy because he wants to chase the dream, but at long distance its the right thing to do because chasing the dream means providing a future for his child, which at this point, is number one.
