Experience from controlling their neighbors to the east (Iraq, Kuwait, UAE) for several years, as recently as 2011 gives me a different perspective than "someone from 1970". We interfaced with Turks, Saudis, Yemeni, Iranian and UAE types. I would not get into the right seat with any of them as acting PIC. Call me too general. I'm sure the Kurds, and Turks would have a say in the say in the "lumping" discussion too. It is what it is; my opinion. You have yours.
I'm not "someone from 1970", and some of us have experience actually flying with those guys you mention, too. I have instructed or flown with fighter pilots from Saudi, UAE, Bahrain, Egypt, and even Israel as recently as 2010...because I spent 2011 in Afghanistan and flew with exclusively USAF pilots during that assignment. Trained them in UPT, trained them in IFF, and flew with or against them in the F-15E, so I've seen their act on many different levels.
Yes, guys from that neighborhood in general are comparatively not good.
The leap of logic, that they're all "incompetent pilots", and that means that our fighters taking on theirs in direct combat is going to be some kind of cakewalk, is just wrong. Pretty enormous military mistake to underestimate your foe. As ///AMG posted, the senior pilots in the Iranian AF were western educated, and tactically trained by USAF and USN fighter pilots, and had access to US tactics and doctrine that was current in the late 1970s. In addition, they've had access to Russian tactics and weapons in the time since then.
I haven't flown with any current Iranian AF pilots, though, and neither have you, so those pilots from the 1970s who did are about the only firsthand source of information about their skills.
Let's not forget that, even with the solid butt-kicking that the IrIAF was given during Desert Storm in 1991, a lot of US pilots and aircrew went home in flag-draped caskets, too.
It's pretty easy for people to be dismissive when it's not actually their pink butt being put at risk...so you're right...I have a different opinion and perspective than you do.