Honestly the only time I questioned my choices to jump into aviation late in life (mid-thirties) was when I was a junior captain at Skywest. Movement is pretty slow there in the left seat due to all the lifers (I think there are less of them now), especially on the west coast. The abuse you get on reserve is pretty insane. I can't for a second imagine being a DEC there where you literally never move up. I upgraded at the end of 2017 so covid hit soon after that and movement slowed. I remember sitting in my rented room over Christmas and not being able to get ahold of my family thinking what the hell am I doing. It gets a little better with seniority, but the work rules there are abysmal and nobody cares to fix it cuz they're either senior enough to not feel it or think they'll be out of there before it matters.
Signed: someone who fought to get ALPA onboard for over 5 years.
I was on the last two drives, and leadership on this last one, but I gave up this spring when a few milbros took over the OC and started making unilateral decisions, one of which was to move the OC chat to a different platform despite 50% of the people saying they didn't want that.
I also had one of those milbros go off on me about being a furry (due to my telegram user icon) and how it was inappropriate for a "professional" environment.
It's been radio silence since then, so I'm guessing the drive is dead. Not surprising, given the aforementioned.
The thing is, I'm fully willing to accept that my job is specifically the worst job in the industry, and that I'm too much of a trash animal to move on. But what I have trouble with is that when I say that, people come out of the woodwork to talk about how their schedules and work rules look like mine, or are worse. I feel like I'm being gaslit, and so when I come across an article like the one in the original post that compares strongly to my own experience, it seems like a reasonable baseline to check.
I also think people far too easily dismiss the long-term physical and mental health impacts of all of these factors.
Thanks to those who read and responded.