My fiancee and I are in it for better or worse. If you wouldn't be together just because of being a pilot, then maybe the marrige should have never happened in the first place. Once you put in your time and get a little seniority you could have 3 days away from home and 4 days at home, not working at all. Those days would be purely for taking care of the wife and family. A woman's going to be your wife, because she want's to take up the slack while your gone; mainly because you will take the slack for her just as much when its your turn. While your gone, she rules the house, and what she says goes. When you get married your going to want that trust and understanding. (no undermining any decisions made while you were gone) Give and take, for ever and ever.