It must be hard to be the spouse of either a military person or a pilot. The thought of my man being gone for an extended period of time would drive me insane......not to mention the "frustration" on both parts. I've had pilots in my family and I know they have all had affairs. Not all have ended in divorce though and in the end, the one that stayed, was sure happy to spend his paychecks....no matter what,or who, he was doing. I also think it's with a lot of relationships these days. The divorce rate is so high. Mostpeople just jump into marriage and do it at the courthouse. No wonder they don't last!
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frog_flyer
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military divorce rate is the worst.
moving every 3 years + the deployments...
moving every 3 years + the deployments...
juskl
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Anymore, I can just put it this way, some things work out and some don't. I was a Police Officer for 13 years, left two months ago to finish my CFI, and yes in the process of getting Divorced.
I can tell you that any job where stess is the number one component, with alot of us Alpha Males and Females involved in it, will set up a situation for the Divorce to occur. Hell, I didn't even realize how, "emotionally unavailable" I became, until she moved out. Not that that was the only cause for the split (no affairs involved thank God), but marriage generally becomes a victim to the job.
And I am not condoning the affair situation by any means, but when you work in that environment long enough with close friends of the opposite sex in close quarters, well...... things happen.
When I was with the Police Department, I would sometimes work 60 hour weeks in some pretty tough and stressful (not to mention emotionally charged) situations. It was fellow coworkers that I was sharing those times with, and you get very close to one another (can't help but to)....
I was never in the military, but I am sure that those that are (especially in battle zones), can relate to the closeness and bonding that occurs with your buddies in that environment. This won't be repeated with a significant other due to the situational difference. Unless that spouse or significant other were in the day to day stress and danger with the husband or wife involved...... Just my experience....
I can tell you that any job where stess is the number one component, with alot of us Alpha Males and Females involved in it, will set up a situation for the Divorce to occur. Hell, I didn't even realize how, "emotionally unavailable" I became, until she moved out. Not that that was the only cause for the split (no affairs involved thank God), but marriage generally becomes a victim to the job.
And I am not condoning the affair situation by any means, but when you work in that environment long enough with close friends of the opposite sex in close quarters, well...... things happen.
When I was with the Police Department, I would sometimes work 60 hour weeks in some pretty tough and stressful (not to mention emotionally charged) situations. It was fellow coworkers that I was sharing those times with, and you get very close to one another (can't help but to)....
I was never in the military, but I am sure that those that are (especially in battle zones), can relate to the closeness and bonding that occurs with your buddies in that environment. This won't be repeated with a significant other due to the situational difference. Unless that spouse or significant other were in the day to day stress and danger with the husband or wife involved...... Just my experience....
FatBastard
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Doug, that is a good one!! LOL!!!!
FatBastard
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Bitter? Nah that's the wrong word. If you are referring to my take on professional aviation careers, then the proper term is "experienced and slightly jaded." I see people talking about "quality of life" in another thread, about whether to upgrade to turboprop or stay jet FO. My friends, you do not know what quality of life is until you own your own business! True QOL comes when you make your own decisions each day, and sleep where you want to each night. It may not be total security, but it certainly is freedom.
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Don't you just hate women that do that? They perpetrate all this stuff on thier spouse, then try to make em look bad for thier own selfish reasons. Like Doug said, mentally as well as physically abusive people SUCK!!
This sounds like an Amway commercial.