I lost my dad last night.

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DPApilot

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GUYSH! GUYSH! GUYSH!
I probably won't revisit this because this post makes it real to me. I found out this morning from my brother who I don't keep in touch with that my father passed at 55 years of age. My dad and I haven't had the best relationship after my parents divorce and I haven't seen him in 3+ years. He was laid off from his job and moved to Wisconsin, and I got a job as an airline pilot in Florida. Anyways, at the end of last year he made an effort to get into my life and we had started reconnecting. I called him yesterday morning to inform him of a promotion I will be getting at my current job and it went to voicemail. I was hanging out with @Boris Badenov and @Avalon781ML and let his return call go to voicemail. Figured I'd call this morning and chat. Little did I know. 55 years old. I'd do anything to go back to last night and tell him I love him one more time. Sorry guys, I just needed to vent. Knowing he will never see me get married, or having my kids never know their grandpa is killing me. I love you dad.
 
I'm sorry for your loss. We are around the same age and my dad is battling a life ending disease. So I know about the thoughts you are having.

Try to keep your head up, stay strong, and find happiness. I'm sure that's what your old man would want for you.
 
I'm sorry man. The loss will never fade, the pain will. I promise.

I lost both my parents before I was 21. You will find ways to keep the memories alive and a part of your life and your future members of you family's lives.

My Dad had one song that he liked. Every now and then that song is on the radio while I'm flipping stations. It always stops me in tracks and I silently give a little "How's it going Dad".

Anything I can do to help (including smacking Boris around) just holler.
 
I wish I were wise enough to find words of comfort, but all I can say is I'm truly sorry for your loss and your pain. Please accept my sincere sympathy.
 
Sorry for your loss. I lost my mom when I was young and it's a horrible thing. Time doesn't heal all wounds but it does make it hurt no so much.
 
Mike, Sorry to hear of your loss....You've done a lot in your short time. I am quite sure he would be proud of what you have accomplished. You know your JC peeps are here for whatever you may need. Jim
 
Aw hell. Sorry man. Anything you need speak up. There's a whole community out here just waiting to help.
 
We don't really know one another, but I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am. I know this is very painful for you right now. Try not to feel guilty however, even though I am betting you will. None of us can predict our own demise or that of others. Even if one is sort of prepared- you never truly are. When a parent is taken away so swiftly, it's just the emptiest feeling in the world. Try to remember that you two had reconnected. That is far better than if you both had just let things remain the same. And try to focus on all the good times you had together as a family and remember all the things he taught you, that he did the best he could, had his own issues to deal with, may not have been perfect (none of us are) but that he did his best under what circumstances he had to deal with. The good times, the love and what you learned from him will never leave you and will always be a part of you for the rest of your life. Love, thankfully, lasts forever. Never forget that he did love you, he also knew in his heart that you loved him in return, and that you'll carry a part of him with you, the rest of your days. Don't go through this alone. Reach out as often as you need to. Again, I am so very sorry.
 
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Sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when I was 17, and like you and your dad, we weren't very close in his final few years, so I can semi-relate to how you're feeling right now :(
 
I'm so sorry. Remember, death doesn't end relationships, it just the changes the venue they exist in. The loss of my parents were probably the toughest days of my life and I still think about them daily; however, I tend to focus more now on the joy we shared and the special moments vs. the pain of their loss.

Again, I am so sorry for your pain and will pray for comfort and peace for you.
 
Sorry for your loss. I was estranged from my Dad for about 9+ years; we re-connected and things have been great ever since. I think you should relish the time you had and take comfort in the fact that you made the effort to reconnect.

Just my suggestion: don't waste any time in smoothing out things up with your brother. Time is short........
 
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