I lost my dad last night.

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Sorry for your loss. It will be something that you will work through each day. It takes a while but it gets better.
 
Thank you to everyone. It really hurts me to read the replies here and know so many people ( many who I personally know, and quite a few who I don't) took the time to say something nice. You do not know how much the community @Derg has created means to me. Without a tight knit group of users I talk to here, I would not have made it through this weekend. I cannot wait to see you guys I'm Vegas. You mean the world to me.

I hate it every time @Derg or @Gonzo has asked how myself or my mother is doing because I know that I have to be her rock. So stop, and we will drink when I get back south this week.

Thank you.
 
Blue skies and tail winds.

My condolences go out to you and tour family.
 
Thanks for sharing your experience. My dad and I have never had a close relationship. I have always vacillated between screw him and I want to make peace and not have any regrets. Your story has convinced me to pursue the latter. I'm sorry for your loss and any regrets you harbor. Write a letter to your dad and let him know how you really feel. I hope that helps.
 
I am so sorry for your loss. It does hurt. I lost my dad 18 months ago and I still think of him every day. One of the ways that I found to help ease the pain was to think of the good times and good things that happened during your lifetime. After all you have known him all of your life. Don't dwell on the negative. It wasn't important when it happened and it's not important now.

Our family was kind of lost in space when all of this happened and it didn't seem real while it was happening. It took a while for it to finally sink in. We were also somewhat handicapped in that dad had never left any instructions about where he wanted to be buried, etc. We had to guess on all of this. I think the moment that I will most remember is when I ordered his casket on Amazon and got free shipping. I wish I had been able to tell him that I was going to do this. Dad would have really thought that was funny. My mother was not happy about this at first, but she did come around.

We non-reved him up to Arlington and he's buried there with all of his military folks where he belongs.

Most airlines have a department that can help you through this. There are some really special people in those departments. Reach out to them and accept their help. That is what your airline family is there for.

Joe
 
It sucks man and it's hard. August was a year since my dad passed. He was the rudder that always helped steer my way in life, and now it's just me. Just remember that your dad wouldn't want to see you sitting around feeling sorry about yourself or him. He would want you to live your life to the fullest. And no the pain will never fade. But it will become less sharp and less frequent.
 
Sorry to hear Mike.

I lost my dad when I was 24 due to complications from MS. He was 56 at the time and perhaps one of the most profound influences on my life. I know that you may not realize now this but as others have said the pain does go away. But there will be times you will still miss him.

That being said just remember this. Don't beat yourself up for missing that call or missing that last opportunity to connect with him. All of our lives are like a candle. It can be put out at any time. Just cherish the time you had with him. And be grateful you had the opportunity to re-connect with him.
 
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I probably won't revisit this because this post makes it real to me. I found out this morning from my brother who I don't keep in touch with that my father passed at 55 years of age. My dad and I haven't had the best relationship after my parents divorce and I haven't seen him in 3+ years. He was laid off from his job and moved to Wisconsin, and I got a job as an airline pilot in Florida. Anyways, at the end of last year he made an effort to get into my life and we had started reconnecting. I called him yesterday morning to inform him of a promotion I will be getting at my current job and it went to voicemail. I was hanging out with @Boris Badenov and @Avalon781ML and let his return call go to voicemail. Figured I'd call this morning and chat. Little did I know. 55 years old. I'd do anything to go back to last night and tell him I love him one more time. Sorry guys, I just needed to vent. Knowing he will never see me get married, or having my kids never know their grandpa is killing me. I love you dad.
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