I have some expertise in this realm.
As far as what goes on in the emergency, the "recovery team" would gather as much information as possible via ATC. Weight and engagement speed of the aircraft, any ordinance etc... They would ensure the gear is ready (in battery) and stand by.
The aircraft may either roll in, (land 100-500+Prior) and take the gear, or they may chose to fly-in (utilize the FLOLS or other optical guidance, much like a PAPI)
The E28 is fat ,dumb and happy. It doesn't care what aircraft, weight or speed. The older M-5 you would dial in stuff. Today the -28's and (mobile) M31 you just make sure it's in battery. ( and in boots)
When the aircraft catches the wire, it pulls out a tape (imagine a yo-yo on its side) That tape is connected on top of a drum filled with fluid (water/anti-freeze). As the tape is pulled out it rotates several stator vanes submerged in the water/glycol mix) that hydraulic resistance creates the friction needed to slow down the aircraft. Eventually rolling out around 800'.
Those giant markings indicate to the pilots where the gear is, much like what was said earlier.
Landing directly on the cable will mess it up. They have durability, but eventually they will break.
dasleben fantastic landings in the 76 would certainly do that.
Clear as mud now?