Cheating Girlfriend
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mpenguin1
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Well, she did invite me to go to Disneyland, two weeks ago with her cousin, and her best friend.
Not sure what that's about...
Three-some!:nana2: Yeah, I know Max, you're gay, you can always ask some of the J/C members if you need a pinch-hitter:rawk::cwm27:
Not necessarily. Ever been in a situation when you and someone clicked at first, then after a couple of weeks the two of you started to drift apart and things were never the same as they used to? Of course you have. Some of the reasons why a girl would lose her interest in a guy often results in him calling her too much, being extra needy or clingy, showering her with all sorts of presents, talking about long term already and you barely know her for like a week and doing too much nice things. As far as i know, a woman isn't attracted to a guy when he is always too nice to her.. and i am not saying that the guy needs to be an abusive jerk (even though we all know jerks get their way) but if the guy would take the time to improve himself and have a personality that woman love then game is over. Most guys are just plain boring and that in itself is a turnoff.
It is not about playing mind games really, its about improving yourself and being someone who gets it. People often live their lives lonely and trying to make excuses by saying..oh he/she wasn't the right one for me, or maybe he/she isn't worth my time.. Pretty awful.
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Best thing to tell a hottie: tell em they can't have you. Try to mean it too, at least for awhile.The really cute ones are used to getting whatever they want, so denying them makes em nuts!
Haha indeed. When you are different from the other hundreds of losers that drool all over her, you really spark her interest and she would often want to know what you are all about. Unfortunately, some guys screw it up pretty quickly and show her that it was all just an act.
I've been pretty happily married for 6 years now. With no head games.
The key is be yourself and act in ways that make you happy. If you do that, you're not living your life to control the feelings of others, which is what you're trying to do if you play "head games" like not calling or not paying her attention to "make" her want you more.
I actually think we may (maybe?) be saying a similar thing, though I found your last sentence confusing. I dated guys who weren't the right one for me, and ones who most decidedly WEREN'T worth my time! That doesn't make me pathetic, it just means those relationships weren't meant to last. Not all are.
Hey Amber, you know those conversations where non-certificated flight sim only pilots disagree with 10 year major airline captains?
Yes. Yes I do.
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MFT1Air
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Bro, no disrespect intended, but to summarize, that whole concept is dumb. . .but give it awhile. The truth will set you free.
How to improve yourself. . . .by pretending to be someone else? As in a jerk? I don't think so.
This could be a sensitive topic for some people on here and a lot of you will disagree with what i am saying but i just want to clarify that at this point in my life i don't have time for committments or anything serious. What i am talking about works for me in the dating scene with the intentions of not taking it any furthur than a casual relationship..
Look, it is true that there are people out there who simply aren't worth your time, however, there are times when it is your own damn fault that the person left you instead of claiming them to not worth your time. If you keep on getting disappointed in relationships and if someone constantly cheats on you, maybe it is YOU who needs to change and make yourself into a better person instead of being a pushover. What i am saying is people often rely on fate and destiny to bring them a significant other and if they are single, they would say that it was the way it was meant to be..or that i have given up hope on men/women. You have heard these before.
Where have i said that you need to be a jerk to improve yourself? All i am saying is that people who often don't have success in relationships should consider where they went wrong and do something about it. I'll share with you a favorite quote of mine..
" A relationship is not a requirement. Your health and welfare do not require a realtionship. Believe in yourself---regardless of your situation right at this moment--and you will be complete."
Please don't take my comments as being bitter because i am not that kinda of person at all. I just think that people need to stop putting so much emphasis on fate and actually take control of their own lives. You are responsible for what you become and you have no one to blame but yourself.
First: Please quit telling me what I have and haven't experienced before, and what I have and haven't heard before with comments like:
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Never, ever assume you know what other people have seen or experienced.
Phrases like that come off as very condescending and arrogant.Second: By your first paragraph, it sounds like you're doing exactly what I talked about. Living your life to make yourself happy. You say you're not ready for a long-term or committed thing. That's fine, that's where you're at in your life!
Third: You're talking about a few different things in the second paragraph, talking about being left, about being cheated on, and about believing in fate and that it "wasn't meant to be". I think those things are totally dependent on the individual. Some people actually (knowingly or not) seek out people who do not make healthy relationship partners.
Again it comes back to each person living their life ultimately for themself, and being happy with themSELF at the end of the day. If one finds themself unhappy with their life situation, then a change needs to be made.
So, I think we do actually agree
Even if we may be saying it just a bit differently.
There we go! Now I know we agree! Well said!
MFT1Air
Well-Known Member
I agree with you. Anyone who plays games not true to themselves in a relationship, by me, are jerks. Your point I believe coincides with mine in that it isn't really necessary for a relationship for most. . .yes, many feel compelled to want one, but it's not really necessary.
Now, for those who believe that it is, for those involved, it's all about performing your due diligence to ensure you've made the right choice. Even then, if you fail and misjudge, if you still wish for a relationship, simply try again. . . period. Don't dwell on the past; look optimistic into the future.
Maximilian_Jenius
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Not saying that I agree with N80 but I understand what he speaks of. Most guys or girls in this generation X or Y don't want someone who treats them with respect.
They want someone or something they can't have, and if they can't have it they want it even more. Anything they can easily have isn't much of a challenge, even if it is the best thing for them.
That being said someone shouldn't be a pushover, too nice, have no backbone, start talking long term commitment too early into a relationship and start buying the other gifts to spoil them.
But neither should a nice guy, pretend to be a jackass, just to make himself or herself more interesting to the object of his/her affection.
I tried that several times, but in the end figured why should I have to act different just to keep someone. There are 3 billion people on the planet, not everyone is going to like you, or think you're hot ####!
But, there is someone out there for everyone, and in the right amount of time you'll find them. Until then work on yourself, but more importantly always be true to yourself, and you'll do fine in the game of dating!
They want someone or something they can't have, and if they can't have it they want it even more. Anything they can easily have isn't much of a challenge, even if it is the best thing for them.
That being said someone shouldn't be a pushover, too nice, have no backbone, start talking long term commitment too early into a relationship and start buying the other gifts to spoil them.
But neither should a nice guy, pretend to be a jackass, just to make himself or herself more interesting to the object of his/her affection.
I tried that several times, but in the end figured why should I have to act different just to keep someone. There are 3 billion people on the planet, not everyone is going to like you, or think you're hot ####!
But, there is someone out there for everyone, and in the right amount of time you'll find them. Until then work on yourself, but more importantly always be true to yourself, and you'll do fine in the game of dating!
Firebird2XC
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Well, she did invite me to go to Disneyland, two weeks ago with her cousin, and her best friend.
Not sure what that's about...
I was wondering what ever went down with that.
At least you're still making time, man.
Mattio
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N8081G probably has said the most helpful and insightful things in this thread. He gets it.
The attitude that you have about this shouldn't be about sleeping with people and throwing it in her face or sleeping with other people to regain your confidence. Everyone should strive for being happy and confident regardless of events in their life, believe me I know it's tough sometimes, but it's the only path to true happiness. Do not continue to adjust your behavior FOR HER or any other women... Don't do anything to seek affirmation from other people, be yourself, shamelessly. And the funny thing about it is when you do this, you'll actually get more women.
And just a lil side note, if you convey to a woman that you are worried about them cheating it becomes 3000 times more likely that they will. The best thing you can do is convey that you are with them just to have fun when you are together and you're not trying to hold them back, it's then a lot less likely that they will sleep with other people, ironic I know.
The attitude that you have about this shouldn't be about sleeping with people and throwing it in her face or sleeping with other people to regain your confidence. Everyone should strive for being happy and confident regardless of events in their life, believe me I know it's tough sometimes, but it's the only path to true happiness. Do not continue to adjust your behavior FOR HER or any other women... Don't do anything to seek affirmation from other people, be yourself, shamelessly. And the funny thing about it is when you do this, you'll actually get more women.
And just a lil side note, if you convey to a woman that you are worried about them cheating it becomes 3000 times more likely that they will. The best thing you can do is convey that you are with them just to have fun when you are together and you're not trying to hold them back, it's then a lot less likely that they will sleep with other people, ironic I know.
skidz
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So, why didn't you hit that just for the heck of it and then tell her you're gay?
MikeOH58
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To the original poster of this message........
Don't worry man, you'll have many good days ahead of you...Including one over the next ohh maybe month or two when you go out with all your buddy's to a bar, have an awesome time, and really feel like your starting to get over her and come home and pull this at 3AM...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4HWKc79I08&feature=related
PS- Don't ever date a girl from Germany hehe.
Don't worry man, you'll have many good days ahead of you...Including one over the next ohh maybe month or two when you go out with all your buddy's to a bar, have an awesome time, and really feel like your starting to get over her and come home and pull this at 3AM...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4HWKc79I08&feature=related
PS- Don't ever date a girl from Germany hehe.
MFT1Air
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To the original poster of this message........
Don't worry man, you'll have many good days ahead of you...Including one over the next ohh maybe month or two when you go out with all your buddy's to a bar, have an awesome time, and really feel like your starting to get over her and come home and pull this at 3AM...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4HWKc79I08&feature=related
PS- Don't ever date a girl from Germany hehe.
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PetrolBurner
Flying inside the TFRs
Ahhhhhahahaha that was a great film.