Gender reveal crash

We did in vitro to have our twin boys. Along the way we were required to do counseling, where we met a number of couples struggling with long term infertility and who had years of failed attempts and miscarriages. Through the lens of that experience, and hearing those stories, I've always found gender reveal social media charades to be incredibly insensitive. What could be more insignificant than the birth gender of the healthy baby you had no problems conceiving?

I should note that even though it's not for me, I do find the events couples do with their families to be cool - I'm talking more specifically about the events orchestrated for social media attention.
 
Baronman said:
Had two kids. Both reveals happened with my wife’s legs up in stirrups.


95% of the ladies "OMG how could you stand not knowing what you were having??!" Me, "Easy."
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I remember a friend of mine saying something similar when everyone was like “OMG, how can you stand not knowing”?

She would always smile and simply say “it’s either going to be a boy or a girl, only 2 choices.” LOL!
 
Murdoughnut said:
We did in vitro to have our twin boys. Along the way we were required to do counseling, where we met a number of couples struggling with long term infertility and who had years of failed attempts and miscarriages. Through the lens of that experience, and hearing those stories, I've always found gender reveal social media charades to be incredibly insensitive. What could be more insignificant than the birth gender of the healthy baby you had no problems conceiving?

I should note that even though it's not for me, I do find the events couples do with their families to be cool - I'm talking more specifically about the events orchestrated for social media attention.
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Our gender reveal was low key. Just family only. No social media BS. We took 4 rounds of IVF to get this one, $60k cash drained in this effort over 2.5 yrs.


It’s such a taboo subject in my culture/religion/background, I haven’t even told my parents. I have told only my 2 younger brothers. The older brother and my parents, no.
 
Cherokee_Cruiser said:
Our gender reveal was low key. Just family only. No social media BS. We took 4 rounds of IVF to get this one, $60k cash drained in this effort over 2.5 yrs.


It’s such a taboo subject in my culture/religion/background, I haven’t even told my parents. I have told only my 2 younger brothers. The older brother and my parents, no.
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I thought CA gave free or discounted IVF?
 
mwflyer said:
I remember a friend of mine saying something similar when everyone was like “OMG, how can you stand not knowing”?

She would always smile and simply say “it’s either going to be a boy or a girl, only 2 choices.” LOL!
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We always found out because it makes shopping easier. Libs and Karens will get triggered, but we shop blue for boys and pink for girls. And especially clothing! There’s boys and girls. Having a baby is busy enough, it just helps a whole lot more when you can get everything done before the baby is born.
 
alaskadrifter said:
I don’t know about Pawnees, but I think most of the corrosion problems were actually in the attachment points. Big bummer either way.
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Attach ADs come to my mind as well. The Pawnee is rife with them, both the main wing compression struts and the horizontal stabilizer attach point due to corrosion from the pesticides. When I towed gliders ours had the transparent covers around the h-stab attach to make more frequent inspection easier.

So in the video you’ve got:

- 1960s era ex-ag plane with multiple wing and tail attach recurring inspection ADs.
- Mexico, so questionable corrosion / inspection history.
- Compression strut design, which is inherently weaker than tension struts due to column buckling, so they need to be heavier.
- A *HARD* pull. It’s impossible to tell for sure, but the rate of pitch up looked like > 4G to me, so now we’re outside normal category load factor even for a brand new airframe.

The Pawnee is a blast to fly. With the hopper removed for glider towing and the 260hp engine it’s like a little overpowered single seat rocket ship, at least by GA standards. I found it really easy on empty legs on the way back from tows to want to yank and bank around, and I always had to remind myself of all the reasons (old airplane, inherent risks of compression strut vs tension strut design, questionable corrosion history + recurring wing and tail attach ADs) … of why that was a bad idea. :)
 
Cherokee_Cruiser said:
We always found out because it makes shopping easier. Libs and Karens will get triggered, but we shop blue for boys and pink for girls. And especially clothing! There’s boys and girls. Having a baby is busy enough, it just helps a whole lot more when you can get everything done before the baby is born.
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I don’t disagree. I don’t have a problem with either personal choice a couple makes. It’s their business and decision. I just find it funny how upset others get by it.

My brother-in-law and his wife did it. And my wife, SIL and MIL were all kinds of salty. Their argument was they didn’t know what to buy. It was pretty funny to me. LOL!
 
Cherokee_Cruiser said:
We always found out because it makes shopping easier. Libs and Karens will get triggered, but we shop blue for boys and pink for girls. And especially clothing! There’s boys and girls. Having a baby is busy enough, it just helps a whole lot more when you can get everything done before the baby is born.
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Seriously, shoo… contribute to the actual conversation about the airplane crash or get the hell out of here.

Edit: nobody gives a crap what color clothes you buy your baby.
 
Cherokee_Cruiser said:
Our gender reveal was low key. Just family only. No social media BS. We took 4 rounds of IVF to get this one, $60k cash drained in this effort over 2.5 yrs.


It’s such a taboo subject in my culture/religion/background, I haven’t even told my parents. I have told only my 2 younger brothers. The older brother and my parents, no.
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Cherokee_Cruiser said:
We always found out because it makes shopping easier. Libs and Karens will get triggered, but we shop blue for boys and pink for girls. And especially clothing! There’s boys and girls. Having a baby is busy enough, it just helps a whole lot more when you can get everything done before the baby is born.
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Yeah, we tend to be over-sharers - and I found that when I would tell people we did IVF, people that had previously told us that their twins occurred naturally would soon fess up. I never understood why it was stigmatized - not like we didn't try screwing first.

Even as a "lib" I'm a big believer in nature over nurture - probably because I have twins raised under the same circumstances who have personalities completely distinct from one another. I would say, however, that knowing the gender was actually more beneficial for knowing which books to buy - because there's a good deal of difference in the psychologies of boys and girls, and it has meaningful considerations for how you raise them.
 
Wardogg said:
That does look eerily similar.

They both remind of this one. This happened when I was at AATTC in St Joe. Not something you want to see when you are going out to do low levels.


View: https://youtu.be/-A4QZAxrb28?si=2rAQ4vW1APr3HWpw
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I've mentioned this here before bit I think it bears repeating. The C-130 in that video was an A model with Aeroproducts 3-blade propellers. It became very obvious to Lockheed and the USAF that the harmonic vibration from those props were wearing out the wing spars on those early C-130s at an alarming rate and they switched to a Hamilton Standard 4-blade prop system incorporating a synchrophaser that did exactly what it sounds like, it kept all of the props in sync and the vibe issue disappeared. It was the same thing the Electra/P-3 went through. Any aircraft, helicopter or airplane, will age directly in simpatico with the amount of vibration (work hardening aluminum), some quicker, some later. I honestly wish I didn't know anything about this. As far as the video I remember somewhere back in the deepest canyon of my brain an AD about Piper airplanes and their wing attach points, I've never worked on a Piper so my memory is spotty at best.
 
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