I'm kinda freaking out...

One of my mom's friends showed up to have her baby in 1981... baby boy was born! Yay! Then a few minutes later, she gets the urge to push again... doc feels up her belly and says, "Whoa there's another one in there!" Surprise twins! Baby girl was born, a total surprise. Baby 1 had been in front of Baby 2, so in listening to baby's heartbeat the twin "in front" blocked the doc from hearing the second heartbeat during her pre-natal visits. I'm glad those kind of surprises don't happen anymore!

Especially with today's technology. We had a confirmation of pregnancy ultrasound at 7 weeks. They could tell us then it was only a single baby.
 
Im 29 and have a 22 month old and a 4 month old.........talk about hectic! Im sure your gonna be a good dad my friend, no need to stress out about it.

Derek
 
Congrats. Oh there's no insurance? She's 24, can't she be on her parent's insurance (if there is any)?

Otherwise, sign up for the Marketplace as she can be covered 1/1/2014. Good luck.
 
Dude! Congrats!! Being a dad is awesome, especially hearing your lil one say Daddy for the first time. My wife and I have a sort of Brady Bunch going on. I had 3, she had 2 and we have 1 together. 6 total between us with the ages being 5, 10, 11, 12, 14 and 15 and love it! We have 5 boys and 1 girl...thankfully!!! Anymore girls and I'd have to hang myself. Our daughter is 14 going on 25 and can be worse than all 5 boys put together especially during her monthly visit from the B!$@h fairy. I can't imagine life without them. Strap yourself in for the fun and enjoy the ride! Oh and beware...some preggo women can be a real bear because of their emotional roller-coaster during pregnancy! BTW, the boss is 36 & I'm 37 and thanks to the Doc, there will never be a #7 or my wife will have some serious 'splainin' to do. :)
 
It is scary, but well well worth it. I had my first at 25. As MQAA said, there is no "right" time. Ever. We had just bought our house and I was laid off when we found out and we made it. You'll find a way!

Enjoy every moment, seriously. Ironically my wife is crying next to me looking through old pictures because now the kids are 2, 6, and 7 and there have been a metric ton of memories already.

Congrats again!
 
Thanks for all the encouragement guys! It actually means a lot! I'm excited. Going to really have to get my butt in gear over the next couple months to get ready. Have to finish remodeling the house (the babies room at the very least), get a new vehicle appropriate for a family, and now I may have to really think about where I want my career to go.

Up until I found out, I've been really considering the 121 route... But now I'm almost thinking of taking a job with a local 135 carrier so I can be home more nights than not.
 
Plan a huge shower. Hit up the grandparents on both sides, all the relatives and friends. Make a list of everything you need (car seat, furniture, stroller, clothes, high chair, crib, bedding, bassinet, etc.).....get people to pitch in on things together if they can't afford something and give everyone a list, (register at Babies R US or Target) because all the crap that babies have to have, costs a fortune and there is a ton of it! lol Start going to various baby food, diaper, baby toiletries (lotions, shampoo, powder - like John and Johnson), food like Gerber and whatever manufacturers sites and getting coupons....find the items on sale and use the coupons. Start stocking up on diapers this way. There are stores that sell used baby clothes also. Babies outgrow their clothes as soon as you buy them and name brand, in very good condition used clothes are a great find.

As a side note, be prepared for hormone ups and downs with your wife. Make date nights with her and evenings, days just for her that don't include any baby talk and make her feel that she is not only a Mom, but your girl. Get her some little thoughtful items just for herself. Keep the romance going. Rub her feet and her lower back when she gets further along and help out more with cooking, grocery shopping and chores. Spoil her a little. She's going to be through some incredible physical and mental changes.

You are in for the adventure of your life.

Babies rule!!!!

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My first unplanned boy came along because my than four month girlfriend got pregnant. We walked the isle when she was in her sixth month of term. My second unplanned boy came three years later right after I lost my job. Never planned the kids or the wife. Today after 23 years I'm still married to what turned out to be a wonderful wife and my boys now 23 and 19 are the coolest thing to ever happen in my life. I would walk through fire for either of them. And that comes from someone who's whole life rotated around flying. Take a deep breath and plan it out one day at a time. Before you know it you will be missing them. Remember, there is a big difference between mistakes and surprises. Doubts that appear as mistakes have a away of turning into pretty cool surprises.

Enjoy the adventure!
 
Plan a huge shower. Hit up the grandparents on both sides, all the relatives and friends. Make a list of everything you need (car seat, furniture, stroller, clothes, high chair, crib, bedding, bassinet, etc.).....get people to pitch in on things together if they can't afford something and give everyone a list, (register at Babies R US or Target) because all the crap that babies have to have, costs a fortune and there is a ton of it! lol Start going to various baby food, diaper, baby toiletries (lotions, shampoo, powder - like John and Johnson), food like Gerber and whatever manufacturers sites and getting coupons....find the items on sale and use the coupons. Start stocking up on diapers this way. There are stores that sell used baby clothes also. Babies outgrow their clothes as soon as you buy them and name brand, in very good condition used clothes are a great find.

As a side note, be prepared for hormone ups and downs with your wife. Make date nights with her and evenings, days just for her that don't include any baby talk and make her feel that she is not only a Mom, but your girl. Get her some little thoughtful items just for herself. Keep the romance going. Rub her feet and her lower back when she gets further along and help out more with cooking, grocery shopping and chores. Spoil her a little. She's going to be through some incredible physical and mental changes.

You are in for the adventure of your life.

Babies rule!!!!

Cutest_Baby_in_the_World-51.jpg
Okay, now that is one damn cute picture. Making me miss those days.

Funny story, when my first boy was that age, we had a diaper pail and I grabbed some hazardous waste stickers from the hanger and stuck them all over the pail.Neighbors thought I was insane. I had them all officially filled out with "related" terms such as son's name, toxicity level etc.
 
Thanks for all the encouragement guys! It actually means a lot! I'm excited. Going to really have to get my butt in gear over the next couple months to get ready. Have to finish remodeling the house (the babies room at the very least), get a new vehicle appropriate for a family, and now I may have to really think about where I want my career to go.

Up until I found out, I've been really considering the 121 route... But now I'm almost thinking of taking a job with a local 135 carrier so I can be home more nights than not.
And working on insurance??
 
Okay, now that is one damn cute picture. Making me miss those days.

Funny story, when my first boy was that age, we had a diaper pail and I grabbed some hazardous waste stickers from the hanger and stuck them all over the pail.Neighbors thought I was insane. I had them all officially filled out with "related" terms such as son's name, toxicity level etc.
ROTFL! That's hysterical!

I was always the best on the pee diapers and didn't mind even pee on me, but the poopy ones.....they were a struggle. It's amazing how that particular waste matter changes after they start eating even cereal instead of just milk. And then more changes when they go to different/real food. Yikes!!!! You almost want to wear gloves and a hazmat suit. I handed off a fair share of the number two diapers, I admit. It hasn't gotten much better with my current grandbabies either. I don't mind if kids are sick, barf on me whatever, but the poopy thing......errrrggg.

My eldest son once peed in my coffee. I was changing him before leaving for work one morning and you know boys....you take off the diaper and there goes the yellow arc/spritz. I had my coffee cup full of coffee on the changing table and he hit it dead on.I usually put a little hand towel or washcloth over him while changing, but just forgot. He was a kicker/leg flailer too and a wiggler and sometimes even they would fall off and then all you could do was duck.

Just wait, you'll have grandbabies one day and all the cuteness back again. I love having them spend the night and taking them places and being with them. It's their smiles, their laughs, how surprised everything makes them, the baths, the cuddling, reading to them, dressing and undressing them, tucking them in, the faces they make, rocking them to sleep, the hugs and kisses, how beautiful they are, all the silly things you do with them, playing toys and games with them, teaching/showing them things, how perfect their skin is, dancing, singing,all the little adorable sounds that they make, just everything about babies is wonderful. Okay, except for the poopies. lmao
 
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Plan a huge shower. Hit up the grandparents on both sides, all the relatives and friends. Make a list of everything you need (car seat, furniture, stroller, clothes, high chair, crib, bedding, bassinet, etc.).....get people to pitch in on things together if they can't afford something and give everyone a list, (register at Babies R US or Target) because all the crap that babies have to have, costs a fortune and there is a ton of it! lol Start going to various baby food, diaper, baby toiletries (lotions, shampoo, powder - like John and Johnson), food like Gerber and whatever manufacturers sites and getting coupons....find the items on sale and use the coupons. Start stocking up on diapers this way. There are stores that sell used baby clothes also. Babies outgrow their clothes as soon as you buy them and name brand, in very good condition used clothes are a great find.

As a side note, be prepared for hormone ups and downs with your wife. Make date nights with her and evenings, days just for her that don't include any baby talk and make her feel that she is not only a Mom, but your girl. Get her some little thoughtful items just for herself. Keep the romance going. Rub her feet and her lower back when she gets further along and help out more with cooking, grocery shopping and chores. Spoil her a little. She's going to be through some incredible physical and mental changes.

You are in for the adventure of your life.

Babies rule!!!!

With that list, shop around. We found almost the exact same crib we were looking at when we went to Babies R Us for a about $300 less at another store. Babies R Us was the most expensive we found and Target was reasonably priced with other stores (Wal-Mart, etc...). Also look into some second hand stores. We found some really cute clothes for dirt cheap so we don't mind if they get pooped on or thrown up on :)

Get inventive... we turned a small dresser into a changing table (Command Strips and Velcro helped). Using a folding camp rocking chair instead of a $400 glider. That sort of stuff. Buying things on sale really helped as well.

I also second the comments about your significant other. She is going to go through some serious ups and downs and her body is going to go through hell before it is all over with.


And yes, babies rule! (even when they are screaming their heads off in the middle of the night)
 
And yes, babies rule! (even when they are screaming their heads off in the middle of the night)
How about when they are crying and you are holding them and soothing them and they start to let go, relax and stop crying and they make those little shuddering kinda sighs. Those deep breath little shaky sighs just melt your heart. You just want to hold your baby tight/close to you forever and never let them go.
 
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How about when they are crying and you are holding them and soothing them and they start to let go, relax and stop crying and they make those little shuddering kinda sighs. Those deep breath little shaky sighs just melt your heart. You just want to hold your baby tight/close to you and never let them go.

Melts and steals your heart!
 
And working on insurance??
Well... We couldn't find an insurance company that would cover the cost of childbirth. They consider it a "pre-existing condition". So unless you have insurance pre-pregnancy that may be a no-go. But luckily in the state of FL, it is illegal not to have pre-natal care. So Medicaid will be picking up the tab. She has to go get an official pregnancy test then bring the results down to the Department of Human Services and get that ball rolling. She is currently only working part time so because she makes so little, we will likely have most of it covered... So this is what I've been paying taxes for all these years? It sorta makes a little sense now.
 
Well... We couldn't find an insurance company that would cover the cost of childbirth. They consider it a "pre-existing condition". So unless you have insurance pre-pregnancy that may be a no-go. But luckily in the state of FL, it is illegal not to have pre-natal care. So Medicaid will be picking up the tab. She has to go get an official pregnancy test then bring the results down to the Department of Human Services and get that ball rolling. She is currently only working part time so because she makes so little, we will likely have most of it covered... So this is what I've been paying taxes for all these years? It sorta makes a little sense now.
Save lots of money and haggle with the hospital for cash payment.
 
You can easily negotiate for a huge cash discount. It will surprise you at how much of a discount. Start calling the area hospitals ahead of time and getting quotes. Also, being low income, can you qualify for any other programs in your state? We have medical in California and for those who do not qualify for that, there is MSI. Try this link: http://www.helpbycity.com/hospitals/hospitals_florida.htm
 
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