Sounds like you are a conflictive person and perhaps a martinet. I have never had to talk to a CP or the skipper about a personal conflict, because I simply don't have them. You seem to have some. Any CP or Commanding Officer worth their salt would consider the source. I have never had to laugh in the face anyone, butI think with you I would make an exception.
Does your company have a pro-standards comittee? Or do you just like being a drama queen by "marching" straight to the CPs office?
You make some pretty broad statements for someone who does not know me. Personally, I would consider an FO who laughs at a captains brief to be combative and an ass. But since you made the accusation I'll momentarily highjack the thread and lay the facts on the table and let others decide if I am a conflictive person. BTW, flew with hundreds of FOs, so we're talking two I could not handle- a number that is less than 1%. In the first case we did not have a pro-standards; in the second we had a pro-standards, but they could not deal with her either.
#1 FO- Many things happened, but I'll start with our initial meeting and end with the final straw. We are called to the ticket counter of the dead head flight. The ticket agent told us there was one seat in first class and asked who was senior. I was about to do the thing most captains would do- offer it to the FO. He chimes in "The captain is senior, but I'm more experienced." Mind you, we had never flown together before and he did not know anything about me. Guess who sat in coach. The final straw was the next day. Driving snow storm, so we got de-iced. We exceeded the hold over time, so it was time for a pre-takeoff contamination check which consisted of one pilot (normally the FO), popping the door and checking for contamination. I asked him to go do it. He responded it was not necessary. I responded it was necessary IAW our limitations and we needed to do it. He responded that I was obviously not experienced in such matters and it did not need to be done. I asked him to humor me and do it. He refused. I told him we had two choices- he could do it, or we would go back to the gate and a new FO would be flown in to finish the flight. He got up and went back to check. At no time did the "door open" warning illuminate. He came back and said we were okay.
#2 FO. Where to start with her. I guess KSYR. After getting de-iced we were given taxi instructions. As I normally do in such situations, I told her what I thought ATC wanted us to do. She disagreed. I asked her to confirm with ATC. She told me there was no need as she was right. I asked her again to do so. She refused. I told her to humor me and check. She said nothing and looked out the window. I called ATC and they confirmed what I thought. I gave her a quick talk that we needed to work together, that this was a two pilot crew for a reason.
Next incident. We get to our hub. My normal procedure at a busy airport was to write down our ramp/gate on the W&B form and put it on the center panel so I could remember where to go after landing. I briefed her on this, but she still threw it out. After landing while taxiing I noticed it was gone; I tried to confirm with her that we were going to ramp#__. She refused to respond, so I assumed we were going there. After turning on the taxi way ATC told me I was going the wrong way and she gave me a grin like "I got you." I asked why she did not correct me and she responded "You're the captain. Taxiing is your job." This is where I got professional standards involved.
Next we are returning from an overnight. I briefed that I would be taking this leg and set up the autopilot to my side. After going through my checks I noticed the autopilot was on her side, so I set it back to my side. She reached up, set it to her side and said "It's my leg." We had a few words and I almost returned to the gate right then.
As soon as we got to our hub I tried to see a CP, but none were in. I left a message for one asking him to call me ASAP. Next leg we are going into a place that is at CAT II minimums, so I start to brief a CAT II approach- a new procedure at the airline then. She announces she does not want to do one. I ask her if she has been trained and if it is legal for us to do one, and she affirms that it is. So I start to brief the CAT II approach. At one time I put down the QRH that had the CAT II approach to set up my avionics. I go to pick up the QRH to finish my captain's brief and she has it. I ask her for it back as I am not finished. She responds "I'm reading it and I'll give it to you when I'm done." To say the least I told her then that we were not doing a CAT II approach. Fortunately it went up to CAT I minimums.