When did you meet?

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FlyChicaga

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Just curious, but a question for you all... when did you meet you significant other? Husband, wife, fiancee? I'm curious, because it seems so many of my friends and younger co-workers are getting married lately, so I've been feeling "behind the curve", while other friends of mine have told me they are so far removed from even considering it that it's foolish of me to even think about.

Also consider my best friend (I was his best man) was married, four years, now divorced. So I'm like "dang if he can get married for that long and divorced in this time..."
 
I was a bachelor until I was forty. I had a blast, too. I did a ton of travel, had interesting work experiences, met lots of great ladies (and some not-so-great
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It's really interesting to me how things work out. My wife and I have very different personalities. Very different. We've talked many times about our differences, always with two main thoughts in mind:

1. Our differences really complement each other.
2. Our differences would have made it impossible for us to have "made it" when we were younger. We would have walked away after the first hour together.

Our age has given us an appreciation for the things that we do differently, rather than get (too) frustrated with each other. Life is a heck of a lot more interesting when you can experience everything from two different perspectives, I'll tell you!

There are pluses and minuses with all choices in life. I'm very happy with the way things turned out. I had the opportunity to do many things I never would have if I had married younger, and yet I also missed out on a lot.

The key is to enjoy the journey. Keep your eyes and ears open. Meet people. Fall in love. Be sad when it doesn't work out and be happy when it does. Try not to worry (too much) when bad things happen, 'cause they will. And for God's sake don't ever rush into a marriage....
 
Yeah, well....my situation is a little more unique than some others. I was 20...living at my sisters house trying to make a name for myself down in the city. My best friend who I had known since 5th grade and grown up with his family call me up on my cell phone one night. "Uh, hey I gotta question for ya." "My little sister has a friend that needs a date for her 'senior' homecoming." Me, "Oh Great"...."No!" Well his sister ended up calling me and telling me there would be a free dinner involved. I eventually caved for a couple reasons....I never went to dances when I was in high school, so I wanted to see what it was like and I was getting a free steak dinner.

Low and behold we had good time and hit it off. I called her back in a week, we started dating...even though I had to dodge the occosanial cradle robber comment, and she moved in with me two weeks after her graduation. We got engaged within a few months and were married a year later. (she 19 and me 22) We have been happy since.

On the other hand my brother didn't meet his wife till he was 29. They are also very happily married. My sister...met her man at 36 and now they are happy. It's different for everyone.

My advice, is to not discount someone until you really get to know them. When you actually do marry some day, it will matter less what they look like, but more how well your personalities match up. You have to be able to wake up every day and want to be with the person, not try to get time away. Don't worry, there are many out there who would probably fit with you, you just have to open your eyes and sometimes get lucky.
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The key is to enjoy the journey. Keep your eyes and ears open. Meet people. Fall in love. Be sad when it doesn't work out and be happy when it does. Try not to worry (too much) when bad things happen, 'cause they will. And for God's sake don't ever rush into a marriage....


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I like that... excellent point !!

Actually the girl I've been dating the past 3 years and will eventually be engaged to.. once she completes grad school .. we have a deal to do what we need to do now in order to get our careers situated ... which I consider myself lucky for her support and understanding when it comes to flying etc..

But.. i digress.. I ended up asking her out one day because she was the only girl ever to beat me in a game of hoops after practice one day while in college ... and I have yet to beat her 45 free throws in a row record either.. that really gets me fired up !!! The best part is with her being a wild-life biologist and working around animals and outdoors all the time our dates where always out mountain biking, hiking, kayacking etc... which leaves the $'s for flying
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and now-a-days I get to play with some really cool animals when visiting her at work at the Zoo !!!

You guys are right in the fact that you shouldn't feel pressured or rushed when it comes to these things in life... my best friends younger sister is married and has a kid already.. at first we were wondering what we were doing wrong but in the end.. it's all about happiness, experiences, and following our dreams... the opportunity to share it with someone is just icing on the cake !!
 
I met my wife at a wedding a week before my 35th b-day. Our first date (a professional baseball game) was on my birthday as a matter of fact. Been together ever since.

Like SteveC, I was single until "later" in life and I don't regret it. I met and dated many different kinds of women and in the end, it's the one who was almost a polar (poller? Poler? Pollar...having a brain fart today) opposite that knocked me off my feet.

The thing we had in common was that we were "going the same direction" in life. If that makes any sense.

Don't get me wrong, we have a TON in common, but, for instance: She's type "A" personality; I'm more type "B". She's aggressive. I'm passive-aggressive. She's reactive; I'm proactive.

Bottom line, don't be in a rush. You'll know when you meet the right person for you.
 
I met my wife freshman year in high school 11 years ago, started dating junior year, and have been married for almost 2 years. She was with me before I ever even thought about becomming a pilot for a living, and has been with me through the entire process so far. She's always been more supportive than I could have ever hoped for, and I'm lucky to have her.
 
When I was freaking stupid and not making decisions that would help me and my caree. . .

Or, sorry....it's over.
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I met my wife my freshman year of college. We lived in the same dorm at Mississippi State, and the first time I met her she was drunk off her @ss. By the end of the night I was carrying her around on my back (we went outside and she didn't have any shoes on), and she kept asking "What was your name again?" Oddly, we started dating about three weeks later. We went through a pretty rocky period from about 1998-2000, but it's all smoothed out now. She knew I'd wanted to be a pilot since I was very young, and she was the one that talked me into checking into pursuing it when I got fed up with theme parks.

Stan, she's also a type A, agressive personality. Although it was kinda hard to tell when you met her since she kept falling asleep.
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We met in church - we were both working in the Singles ministry. I played guitar and she was a greeter/collector. I was impressed that they trusted her with all the money
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We met on the Internet! back in 1993...he was in San Jose Cali working as a CFI and I was in Florida. We talked pretty much everyday for hours at a time until he "found" my phone number via the internet and called me outta the blue (that was a bit creepy!)...but we started talking on the phone along with the internet (for hours at a time) and 3 months into it, we exchanged photos.. 6 months into it, he came to visit for a week...since then, we've been 2 peas in a pod, growth spurts and all...dated 8 years, been married for almost 3 years now.
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we noticed that between 28 & 32, most everyone was either married or getting married and we were about the last of all our buddies to get hitched at the ripe ages of 31 & 32.

we're now noticing that all of our friends are having babies and that's about 2-3 yrs later (34 & 35 yrs old).
 
My wife and I met in college. It was my junior year, spring semester--her first semester on campus .... transferred from a community college.

She was joining a sorority and was friends with one of my roommate's girlfriend. A group of us went out for dinner together and there was a different girl I was eyeing. Well my wife found out that we had the same major and she kept trying to initiate conversation. I rudely kept blowing her off because I was trying to talk to this other girl.

She was offended, and went out of her way to be rude to me anytime she saw me ... the attention was flattering. Well the rudeness turned to flirting, we started seeing each other, and a few years later we are happily married with a child on the way.
 
I met my wife in my jr year of college. We dated for several years while I was paying my dues in aviation. I have now realized how valuable that time was. She got to see first hand what aviation life was like and if it was for her. Luckly, for me, it was and I'm happily married to a very supportive woman.
 
I met Corbin when I was 15 and he was 18. I was introduced to him by his friend, Corbin had already graduated from high school. We were together for five years and then got married, and have been married for five and a half years now.
 
I totally understand where your coming from! I have received three emails this week alone annoucning engagements...I feel like the "last one!"
 
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I totally understand where your coming from! I have received three emails this week alone annoucning engagements...I feel like the "last one!"

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Don't forget....loyalty to "The Group" comes first, Lindsey!!!
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that is so true! once one person steps up... everyone else feels behind and feels compelled to step up after them. competition can get fierce and believe me, when it comes to engagements.. it's a "who asked first & how big is the ring" competition.. completely stupid and senseless! and then it becomes the "whose going to have the biggest wedding/whose getting married first" competition and even after that - the "whose having the first baby" competition...

if your lucky and don't have friends who like to compete - consider it a blessing!
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Actually the girl I've been dating the past 3 years and will eventually be engaged to.. once she completes grad

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When I first read that had to re-read it cause thought it said grade school. Thought I was gonna have to call the chester police!

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-Matthew
 
I first met my wife back in 2000 in the grocery store. I asked her if he could reach up and hand me a box of Lucky Charms...psyche!
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We met on the Internet! back in 1993...he was in San Jose Cali working as a CFI and I was in Florida. We talked pretty much everyday for hours at a time until he "found" my phone number via the internet and called me outta the blue (that was a bit creepy!)...

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Yo Kristie that some scary ass sh*t didn't know ma man Doug rolled like that back then.
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But you guys have the most beautiful wedding picture at your house I noticed that New Years.

-Matthew
 
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