Screaming_Emu
Joe Conventional
Sit down and review all information and options together. Do this in quiet time away from your 3 year old if at all possible. Consider the what-ifs and all potential benefits as best you can see into the future. Talk patiently about fears, cares, passions and don't forget to tell each other often how much you love and care for each other. Then, take 2 days (no less) and decide together what you should do. If it comes down to you wanting to accept the job, and her not wanting you to accept the job because you would have to leave - decline the job. Another opportunity will come along in time that will satisfy both needs. Flying for a living has a higher than average potential to expose otherwise happy marriages to extraordinarily evil and insidious challenges that can be very destructive if not recognized and managed properly.
Agreed 100%
And now my 2 cents.
If you currently have health insurance for your family and would not anymore once you switch jobs, turn it down.
This job could lead to advancement in the aviation industry. But here's the thing (for me at least). If you're in a good, loving, relationship that should be your #1 priority. Flying for a living is awesome, but in my opinion it will never come close to replicating the feeling of a healthy relationship at home.
Yes, at some point in time sacrifice will have to be made to advance, but as I've told my fiance. If this this lifestyle (its not a job) ever gets too much for you, tell me and I'll walk away without a thought.