Trip Length & Home Life

derg said:
It can be tough.

My wife is cat-like, she loves her free time and I think she largely tolerates me around the house for the most part. :)

Maybe your partner doesn't feel included in your work life? Maybe call a little more often and "data dump" a little bit so they know you're not just shuttling around the world in first class, doing no work and someone throws money at you for nothing.

Plus, it may be helpful (somewhat) if you got your partner connected to another person who is with another pilot to bounce ideas off of or a little guidance. They're familiar with Kristie and I'm sure she'd take the call or text anytime. ILL MAKE HER!! :)
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To hop on that.... 🤣

Is there any chance your partner can meet you for your layover? Might be a fun change for both of you, especially if your route is the same for a few days, if you're doing out and backs. All you have to do is contact the hotel to see if your partner can stay in the room or book another room between stays (paying the price needs to be paid, depending on room cost). Doing small fun changes can make a long month feel short, even if you only have 11 hrs to see/walk/experience something different and have a meal together in layover location.

I sometimes do that when Derg's got a long month of work, depending on my schedule.
I'll fly ahead early, do my own thing for a day or two, then meet up with him (save some hotel cash) and if able (depending on flight loads), ride back with him, OR
If he's doing 2 back to back 3 or 4 day trips, I'll fly over with him, stay with him for his first layover, have my own hotel room avail for the in between timing and then meet up with him again for his 2nd layover and try to fly back with him.

To be honest, your career revolves around both of your lives and some data dump (not all negative of course!) isn't a bad thing. It helps your partner *feel* included and connected to that segment of your life.

We (spouses/partners etc) tend to speak out/up when we start feeling "left out".
 
Kristie said:
To hop on that.... 🤣

Is there any chance your partner can meet you for your layover? Might be a fun change for both of you, especially if your route is the same for a few days, if you're doing out and backs. All you have to do is contact the hotel to see if your partner can stay in the room or book another room between stays (paying the price needs to be paid, depending on room cost). Doing small fun changes can make a long month feel short, even if you only have 11 hrs to see/walk/experience something different and have a meal together in layover location.

I sometimes do that when Derg's got a long month of work, depending on my schedule.
I'll fly ahead early, do my own thing for a day or two, then meet up with him (save some hotel cash) and if able (depending on flight loads), ride back with him, OR
If he's doing 2 back to back 3 or 4 day trips, I'll fly over with him, stay with him for his first layover, have my own hotel room avail for the in between timing and then meet up with him again for his 2nd layover and try to fly back with him.

To be honest, your career revolves around both of your lives and some data dump (not all negative of course!) isn't a bad thing. It helps your partner *feel* included and connected to that segment of your life.

We (spouses/partners etc) tend to speak out/up when we start feeling "left out".
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There’s a few times that I will come home if I got a long layover like that especially on the west coast. I’ve thought about having him come out but it’s too unpredictable here sometimes. I’ve been talking more about my work life which I think helps. Even if it’s the craziness there seems to be interest. I love flying but I’ve been vehemently against bringing work home, but it’s good in a way.

Good thing is we went in the other direction this bid period and the trips are all short. That’s a story to be told to you and Doug in person.

How is the pool coming along?
 

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phill1174 said:
How is the pool coming along?
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It's not, our landscape designer decided to bypass our budget and tried to talk us into spending 400% more than our budget because as he said it "Your backyard is another room added to your home and should encompass 40% of what the value of your home is worth TODAY"....YEA, NOPE! There's no money tree on our lot, we're not financing, the designer didn't want to pitch in some cash and 30% of that cash the designer is talking about is going to continue to live in our retirement account. 😅
We thought the budget we had set forth at the very beginning of our project was a decent amount.

So we're working on different concepts now.
 
Kristie said:
It's not, our landscape designer decided to bypass our budget and tried to talk us into spending 400% more than our budget because as he said it "Your backyard is another room added to your home and should encompass 40% of what the value of your home is worth TODAY"....YEA, NOPE! There's no money tree on our lot, we're not financing, the designer didn't want to pitch in some cash and 30% of that cash the designer is talking about is going to continue to live in our retirement account. 😅
We thought the budget we had set forth at the very beginning of our project was a decent amount.

So we're working on different concepts now.
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We ended up blowing past our budget but only by about 20%, though that came from deciding to redo the entire front yard land scape as well. I will admit we did our back yard to basically add another living space in addition to the pool, but we didn’t spent anywhere near 40% of the house’s value on it!
 
phill1174 said:
It took a few days to put myself out there but I feel this is the best place so here I go…

Has anyone dealt with the amount of time on the road changing the dynamics of their home life? Since 2976 here at Brown particularly in my base we’ve been seeing a lot of 7-8 day trips. There’s a few lines with them back to back with a day off in between equating being gone 13-14 days. I had that last month and this month. Apparently being more senior doesn’t work 🙃

Long story short my lack of presence at home isn’t going unnoticed, and this is coming from a partner who is self sufficient and does their own thing even when I’m home. Tbh the amount of time gone sucks the motivation from me going to work even without my partner mentioning it. I’ve never been a fan of long trips but knew what I was getting into coming to the cargo world. It’s also why I never bid international here. Personally after 5 days I’m ready to be done.

TBH I’m not sure what I’m asking here other than venting and wondering if anyone else has dealt with the blues of being gone from home for an extended period of time.
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How is life on the whale living in base?

I know at the legacies life is pretty Cush.
 
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