Strike Three

Duck_Twacy

Duck_Twacy

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My wife just called from the OB/GYN to let me know that she's had her third miscarriage in three years....and of course I'm sitting on reserve 350 mi away and can't be with her.

The doctors have decided to put off any action for another week or so to be sure, as we/they are not positive when the date of conception was. Otherwise I'd be on the way home.

We feel like idiots; we decided to tell our 5 year old this morning, and promised her a picture this evening.

Not sure why I decided to share this here, the last two times we never told anyone anything so people are always asking us "so when are you guys going to have more kids?" It's not for lack of trying. I was already preparing for the "not going to make it to NJC09" post too...We were really excited this time and I just don't think we'll be trying anymore.

Anyway, thanks for listening.
 
Sorry, Duck. We experienced that a couple of years ago, too. I feel for you all.

Doesn't this falls under "emergency leave?"

I hope you can be with your family soon.
 
WoW. I am so sorry to hear about your family's misfortune. I cannot imagine what your wife and you are going through.

As for posting it here. sometimes it just helps to get it out.
 
Sorry to hear about this. Trust me, believe me, I absolutely know what you are going through. Except we have no kids at all. I was in JFK airport heading home when I received the first call; then we were on a bubble and looked like things would pull through. The wife was on bed rest, and I headed back on rotation, with her in good hands (her mom!). Then, the day before I was to head home on my next rotation, sitting in Kiev, I received the news that we lost our boys.

This was our 3rd attempt at in-vitro. She had been pregnant before but did not make it very far. We almost had it this last time, and I don't think either one of us could ever go through that again...

I truly feel your pain and wish you and your family the best. As posted above, it helps to get it off your chest!! If you ever need to talk, let me know...
 
I'm so sorry to hear your sad news.....I had a couple of misses very early on, but they are devastating, nonetheless. Hopefully, she will have a speedy recovery and things will get better for your family. Take care of her AND you.
 
That's rough man - I feel bad for you.

Keep this in mind though - may help. A really close friend of ours has a daughter that has been married a couple of years. Beautiful young woman that we pretty much watched grow up, and we also like the young man she married a great deal. Anyway, this girl is in her early/mid 20's and as healthy as could be. She is also a nurse, so she is fairly in-tune with her body and such. Anyway - they had gotten pregnant three times - pregnant enough that her mom, close friends, etc knew. Anyway, she lost all three babies to miscarriage. She is now on her fourth pregnancy and has progressed past the point of the previous miscarriages - in fact, if the baby was born now it would be viable. Don't give up hope if you really want kids. She did nothing different this time and it just worked. If the Doctors advise against it that is one thing. If they don't, then just know it does happen for some people after multiple miscarraiges. My best to you and your bride.
 
Thanks for the kind words all, I guess that's why I shared here.

I forwarded this link to my wife to read; I've been telling her about how great JC'ers are, and she is very appreciative of the well wishes. Maybe I can get her to NJC.
 
Sorry to hear about that. 3 times!! . . . . One time is bad enough. I hope things get better.
 
My wife and I are in the same boat. First time it was an ectopic pregnancy and the second and third was miscarriage. So WE feel your pain. No little flyingmaniac's yet. Three strikes and keep on trying.
 
Man, so sorry to hear the news Duck, and if you are reading, wife too! I will keep you all in my prayers tonight for sure. I have yet to experience starting a family yet, but I can understand that must be very discouraging. So sorry again to you all, and I hope one day you will have some great news!
 
Im very sorry to hear of your loss. I know that is tough stuff. I pray you guys will be strong and get through this fine. Duck...Be there for her as much as possible! Not just physically in her presence, but just be there for her, even if its just over the phone when you get to the hotel at night. She will need you.

Without going into details my wife and I have been through a very tough year ourselves. Staying strong together has gotten us through it, and we have grown even closer through the struggle!

God bless
 
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