Christina,
Look, this seems to be a case of good cop bad cop. I am going to be the good cop for just a little while. I am sure you will get your CFI no problem, but you will have to study up some more.
I am very knowleable about lift and and the aerodynamics behind it . Somehow through my studying I missed this little detail
Well thats not actually such a little detail. Its pretty much the entire shabang about lift. Lets think about this a second. What is the relative wind? Its the same wind you feel as you run across a parking lot, and its the wind going over the wings as an airplane slices through the air. That relative wind goes over the upper camber of the wing and is then turned and deflected downward because it is a fluid. When the wind is deflected downward, it causes and equal and opposite force to act on the wing. And that force acts up obviously right? Keeping the airplane up right? So the relative wind is coming from the front of the aircraft, over the leading edge and is then being deflected at a shallow angle backwards. Don't let my explanation confuse you, its not being deflected straight down, just down at a shallow angle. And since it is come from a horizontal position, and since the lift is acting upward, it is perpendicular to the wind... Something tells me you really did know that.. But in the end it incredibly important that you can explain that to your students! It amazes me how man pilots there are out there that don't know hardly any basic fundamental aerodynamics.
A word to the wise, better study up on your aerodynamics of a turn, adverse yaw, centrifugal force, load factors, the effects of bank angle on stall speed. Know how and airplane turns concerning the loss of the vertical component of lift. Know where the lift vector points in a turn. Know where weight acts (always towards the earth), know where centrifugal force acts. Know how the tail works - its an upside down wing - be able to explain how the air is deflected on the tail. Be able to tell him what happens to the downwash as you put flaps down. Also be able to discuss with him the interaction of lift and drag... As lift increases so does induced drag. Be able to tell him all the diffent kinds of parasite drag. Know your stuff inside and out.
Of course this is beating a dead horse... He failed you on your confidence... However take the above as advice, because if you get the same guy again he made hound you again on this stuff.
Now moving right along to your confidence problem. Does your family live in Phoenix or near by? Significant other? Friends who don't fly? If you said yes to any of the above then here is some more advice. Since it may take your FSDO guy a while to get back with you as it usually does, go find one of the above and teach them everything you know about how a plane flies, how a chart works, how to flight plan, how to work a weight and balance, weather, whatever. Make them an expert and make them ask you questions.
AND, one final thing. Some FSDO's absolutely love their failure rate for initial CFI's... I have heard of FSDO's with 92% initial CFI failure rates... Don't beat your self up too bad.