Sad......

Sorry to hear man.

Hang in there, while its confusing and upsetting at first, one can move on and mend.

Somewhat similar thing happened to me this year - girl I was with wasn't answering my texts/calls on an increasing frequency while I'd be at work or even home for that matter (we didn't live together).......yet she's out with mutual dude friends- and they relay to me that something's going on with one of the guys, and every time I sent a message, she'd hide her phone. When I asked her about why I couldn't get ahold of her- the "I think we should see other people" spills from her.

Oy Vay.

Enjoy and focus on your flying at hand. Hopefully the community and myself will see you in Vegas!
 
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Cold beer and young waitresses await you in Dayton. First couple rounds on me.
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I'll get down there buddy. Just need to figure out my living arrangements.

Today's discussion was one for the record books.

Me: "hey can I stay in the house until May to get better financial shape and spend time with My daughter? You'll be gone to JAG school Jan -May anyway and the house is empty, you want me to stay until November anyway to help with your travel stuff so its just six more weeks"

Her: "I think it would be awkward for my new guy with you living there and all, even if its in the basement. Don't think he'll stay with me if you're in the house"

Me "really so its not awkward for him to be doing you while I live in the house and didn't know, but its awkward if I live in the basement? WTF?"

Sorry to vent again but my god, this stuff is too funny to be true :)

I see my history of picking women is horrible, perhaps I should try arranged marriages next :)
 
OMG! She doesn't think it's "awkward" that she making her child's Father suddenly move out, that she is already dating another man and that she is having him stay overnight? I am flabbergasted. What kind of role modeling is this? How do you even begin to explain/justify this to a little kid? This just makes me sad.
 
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OMG! She doesn't think it's "awkward" that she making her child's Father suddenly move out, that she is already dating another man and that she is having him stay overnight? I am flabbergasted. What kind of role modeling is this? How do you even begin to explain/justify this to a little kid? This just makes me sad.
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Sounds like shes military
 
jskibo said:
I'll get down there buddy. Just need to figure out my living arrangements.

Today's discussion was one for the record books.

Me: "hey can I stay in the house until May to get better financial shape and spend time with My daughter? You'll be gone to JAG school Jan -May anyway and the house is empty, you want me to stay until November anyway to help with your travel stuff so its just six more weeks"

Her: "I think it would be awkward for my new guy with you living there and all, even if its in the basement. Don't think he'll stay with me if you're in the house"

Me "really so its not awkward for him to be doing you while I live in the house and didn't know, but its awkward if I live in the basement? WTF?"

Sorry to vent again but my god, this stuff is too funny to be true :)

I see my history of picking women is horrible, perhaps I should try arranged marriages next :)
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I'd be livid! Is it your place or hers?
 
Hate to say this but put a hold on your flight training (if you haven't already). And find a lawyer regarding your living situation (or this crap situation in general). It's your place as much as hers.
 
jskibo said:
Gives me a chance to relax, get over the emotional shock and do some more prep. I still have my CMEL set for Sep 19-20.
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Relax, Tom will get you ready. Ask for Bob fit the check ride. 8)
 
Just got back from two back to back trips and haven't had a chance to log-in until just now - very sorry to hear this man. Like others have said, let me know if I can be of any help.
 
After what literally just transpired with me this morning (literally less than an hour ago), I'm going to go ahead and give you my two cents.

My girlfriend literally just broke up with me via some crap, obscure Facebook messenger post (really, you can't call me or do it in person?). Even though we weren't together five years, and certainly haven't had any kids, the feeling sucks. There isn't much anybody can say or do to make you feel better. Only time will numb the pain. Even then, it may never go away completely.

With this being said, I'm going to be okay. And so are you. And do you know why? Because I have family that cares about me a lot. I have a job that I really enjoy. And most of all, I'm alive. I'd say those are some pretty good things. I don't know you extremely well, but I bet you have these things too.

So here's what is going to happen. You're going to knock out the rest of your flight training. You are going to get a decent aviation job that you enjoy, and in a few months, this person will be no more than a footnote in the history that is your life. This I guarantee.

If you want to PM me and talk more about it, I'm definitely game. I'm feeling pretty crappy right now too, and you know the saying; "misery loves company."
 
Good grief. That's terrible.

People that break up via Facebook message (some even do it on the wall... in public...), text message, email, or voice mail are some of the lowest of the low. So cowardly. Basically can't even face themselves. Sorry to hear that, but great attitude.
 
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Good grief. That's terrible.

People that break up via Facebook message (some even do it on the wall... in public...), text message, email, or voice mail are some of the lowest of the low. So cowardly. Basically can't even face themselves. Sorry to hear that, but great attitude.
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Thanks. :)

I'll survive, I've been through a lot more than a crummy break-up before. I can certainly cope again.
 
Seems like I made it through the first four stages of loss: denial/shock, bargaining, depression and almost all of anger. All that's left is acceptance! :) I'm even laughing about some of the more ridiculous things about this (both spoken and unspoken).

Over all, while in some ways the timing sucks, in others it couldn't be better. I have wanted to fly for the last 20 years, dropped it as a major at SIU to pursue the Co-Op program and guaranteed offer from McDonnell-Douglas at the time. Over the years I pondered a lot of what if moments, but never pursued them since the loss of income and time away would have been detrimental to the relationships I was in at the time. I'm mid 40's now and as long as I can find a way to make it work with getting time with my daughter, I think I'm about ready to find something to but my commercial license to use!

Thanks again to all the great group of people on here and your public and private messages of support. I feel like I have 100's of new friends that I have yet to meet, put I hope to correct some of that at NJC this year.

John
 
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Great attitude, my friend! You'll go far thinking like that.

And that's yet another reason I love this website so much. It's not just a bunch of anonymous dudes airing their angst (cough cough, APC), it's more like family then anything.
 
Quite a while back I had a deal happen that caused me some grief. Looking at the stages of loss posted above, shock lasted 5 seconds, there was no bargaining, depression lasted about 5 seconds, and anger has lasted a good 5 years. This wasn't over a woman, so maybe it's different, but it was an interesting exercise plugging my deal into the loss matrix.

All that said, my real point is, I believe things happen for a reason. Out of my bad deal grew something much more awesome and incredible that I never would have done or even considered had the former bad deal not happened. Try to keep an open mind on the possibilities of something much greater coming along.
 
Im sorry to hear, John. Things happen for reasons, keep your chin high and kick ass on your checkride. We have room in colorado if you need to get away; you have my #.
 
Apophis said:
After what literally just transpired with me this morning (literally less than an hour ago), I'm going to go ahead and give you my two cents.

My girlfriend literally just broke up with me via some crap, obscure Facebook messenger post (really, you can't call me or do it in person?). Even though we weren't together five years, and certainly haven't had any kids, the feeling sucks. There isn't much anybody can say or do to make you feel better. Only time will numb the pain. Even then, it may never go away completely.

With this being said, I'm going to be okay. And so are you. And do you know why? Because I have family that cares about me a lot. I have a job that I really enjoy. And most of all, I'm alive. I'd say those are some pretty good things. I don't know you extremely well, but I bet you have these things too.

So here's what is going to happen. You're going to knock out the rest of your flight training. You are going to get a decent aviation job that you enjoy, and in a few months, this person will be no more than a footnote in the history that is your life. This I guarantee.

If you want to PM me and talk more about it, I'm definitely game. I'm feeling pretty crappy right now too, and you know the saying; "misery loves company."
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You really need to write a book, man.

That's motivational as hell!
 
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