Pilots and marriage?

That is such an incredibly wide open question, that the only way it can be answered is with, "it depends".

What do you consider "hard" on a marriage? Everyone is different.
 
If you are worried about this and think you can get around it, this is the wrong industry. You and your mate must believe in each other, and he/she must be able to communicate any issues. No matter what type of pilot, you will be away from home.

I work in what most would call one of the best single-guy's areas in the world. All I think about is getting home to my wife and family. She and I trust each other. If you don't have that, then it is doomed before it even starts.

YMMV
 
A marriage isn't about jobs, it's about people. A marriage is like anything else in life, you get out of it what you put into it, and it takes BOTH participants putting into it to have any chance of working.

A marriage involving aviation is no different than a marriage in any other industry. It depends entirely on the individuals involved.
 
MQAAord said:
A marriage isn't about jobs, it's about people. A marriage is like anything else in life, you get out of it what you put into it, and it takes BOTH participants putting into it to have any chance of working.

A marriage involving aviation is no different than a marriage in any other industry. It depends entirely on the individuals involved.
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That's true, you should always look for a loyal independent women if you plan on becoming a pilot
 
I'm going to go with the kind where you're a (doctor/lawyer/engineer/other good money making job where you can afford your own airplane) and fly for fun. :)
 
SeatClutcher said:
I sense fear in you.
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Let it flow through you...
msmspilot said:
I'm going to go with the kind where you're a (doctor/lawyer/engineer/other good money making job where you can afford your own airplane) and fly for fun. :)
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Money doesn't necessarily equal happiness, although a certain amount of money might be required for a basic level of happiness.
 
crazyjaydawg said:
Marriage is stupid and no marriage is a good marriage
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I use to believe that then I found the right woman.

As far as what type of flying job I have, when we met and married I was flying on demand charter but soon moved back to corporate.

My wife is my biggest supporter and we have never been the biggest house or flashiest car types so when the kids were young she was able to stay home then started part time when they got older, 8 & 6, while managing to save for retirement.

My present job doesn't have me overnight much. I'm gone the longest when I have to go back to the states for recurrent.

When I was gone longer in other jobs, my wife kept the home fires burning and never complained but I made sure and did a my fare share of the work around the house and with the children when I was home.

It's also a good idea to do a little extra for a few days when you get back to give her a break. Have you ever had to be the only one with the children you love for extended periods? My hats off to single parents.

We are married 12 years now and our love and respect for each other along with our love of God has made it wonderful.

I don't think you have to love God to have a great marriage in aviation but it sure helps us.
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When my wife and I started to get more serious years ago, I somewhat jokingly told her she'd have to be an 'independent airline wife' one day. Turns out it all came true. As others have said, it's all about trust, honesty, communication and a mutual commitment to be cool when things get rough with the career.

Always put your spouse first and it'll all work out.
 
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