I live in Ohio right now, and just accepted a job in California. My dad purchased a car for me and my sisters to drive to school and stuff when my older sister turned 16 (1998 or so). My dad is going to sell the car to me so I can drive it to California, instead of flying out there and having all my stuff Fedex'd which would cost an arm and a leg. The only catch, is my dad will not let me drive down there alone. He insists that he come along with me, and then airline back to Ohio.
This would be all fine and dandy, id it weren't for the fact that my dad is an extremely hard person to get along with. He has absolutely no control over his emotions. If a challenge arises, he'll start screaming, throwing things, cussing, and generally throwing a fit. Me on the other hand, I enjoy challenges. I want to tell him that I don't want him coming along, but I know he'll go off on the deep end if I tell him this.
Last week me and him flew out to this place in California and I estimate I spent a total of 5 minutes thinking about my job, and the rest of the time dealing with him.
Here one example: As we were getting ready to leave the hotel to go to my interview, he told me I had to change my clothes. I was wearing a nice pair of leather shoes, a nice black, well-fitting polo, and a nice pair of jeans. He told me I looked like a slob and needed to put on a pair of khakis. If you're 50 years old, and you buy your jeans from K-Mart and tennis shoes, then you'll look like a slob no matter what, but I looked nice. I tried to tell him in a reasonable way that I did not want to change, because I looked fine. He went berserk, and I had no chance but to change, because if I didn't, I'd never hear the end of it, and I had to share a hotel with him... Anyways, on the way to the interview (which wasn't even a real interview, since he basically told me I had the job over the phone), he kept saying things to me like "If you want me out of your life, then just say so, blah blah" ON THE WAY TO MY INTERVIEW. When I finally met the guy I couldn't think of any good questions, because I hadn't had any time in the last few hours to really think about the job.
I just flat out hate being around him He has issues that he needs to fix, but he never will. For the past few weeks I've been totally stressed out about this because I know he'll say to me that if I don't let him come along, then he won't sell me the car. And I just don't have the money to get a loan and buy one myself (he is going to lend me the money to buy it, but I'll have to pay him back once I start getting a paycheck)
Am I ungrateful in not wanting him to come along? He says that I can't do it by myself and he needs to be there in case something happens. I'm 23.5 years old with a college degree, I think I can do it myself.
This would be all fine and dandy, id it weren't for the fact that my dad is an extremely hard person to get along with. He has absolutely no control over his emotions. If a challenge arises, he'll start screaming, throwing things, cussing, and generally throwing a fit. Me on the other hand, I enjoy challenges. I want to tell him that I don't want him coming along, but I know he'll go off on the deep end if I tell him this.
Last week me and him flew out to this place in California and I estimate I spent a total of 5 minutes thinking about my job, and the rest of the time dealing with him.
Here one example: As we were getting ready to leave the hotel to go to my interview, he told me I had to change my clothes. I was wearing a nice pair of leather shoes, a nice black, well-fitting polo, and a nice pair of jeans. He told me I looked like a slob and needed to put on a pair of khakis. If you're 50 years old, and you buy your jeans from K-Mart and tennis shoes, then you'll look like a slob no matter what, but I looked nice. I tried to tell him in a reasonable way that I did not want to change, because I looked fine. He went berserk, and I had no chance but to change, because if I didn't, I'd never hear the end of it, and I had to share a hotel with him... Anyways, on the way to the interview (which wasn't even a real interview, since he basically told me I had the job over the phone), he kept saying things to me like "If you want me out of your life, then just say so, blah blah" ON THE WAY TO MY INTERVIEW. When I finally met the guy I couldn't think of any good questions, because I hadn't had any time in the last few hours to really think about the job.
I just flat out hate being around him He has issues that he needs to fix, but he never will. For the past few weeks I've been totally stressed out about this because I know he'll say to me that if I don't let him come along, then he won't sell me the car. And I just don't have the money to get a loan and buy one myself (he is going to lend me the money to buy it, but I'll have to pay him back once I start getting a paycheck)
Am I ungrateful in not wanting him to come along? He says that I can't do it by myself and he needs to be there in case something happens. I'm 23.5 years old with a college degree, I think I can do it myself.
