My darling Calcapt

Toria

Toria

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I know you will miss Barkley. I am so sorry he is no longer running and playing among us, but he will always be within your memory. Our dogs are very special companions, the only friends who truly love us unconditionally. I, and all your friends, are beside you to share your grief and offer comfort at this time.


We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own, live within a fragile circle, easily and often breached.
Unable to accept its awful gaps, we still would live no other way.
We cherish memory as the only certain immortality,
never fully understanding the necessary plan.

With great sympathy and love, Tori
 
Calcapt.
I/We know the pain you are feeling. We lost our "buddy" Onyx two weeks ago. If you would have told me a week before he passed that I would experience the range and depths of emotions that I did I would have thought you crazy. He was more a part of our family than I fully realized and perhaps apprecieated. Onyx was our first family pet, a solid black schnoodle. We had the joy of his spirited personality for 12 years. His last week with us was a fast and irreversable decline and it hurt watching his life slip past. The only thing more difficult in deciding to have him put down was letting him suffer. Our vet confirmed kidney failure on Friday and Monday morning after a very difficult weekend we had him surrendered. It was a trying time for our family but in the midst of this darkness my oldest daughter, 15, rose to the occasion and showed great sympathy and care to her little buddy. It confirmed in her heart that while this was incredibly difficult it is the path she is drawing towards, work in the Veterinary field. It is terribly difficult as a Parent to watch your children emotionally suffer (or otherwise) but we talked about it and I believe it drew us closer as a family. Even in death this little guy was part of the family.

Toria
Thank you for sharing your kind words and insights to a very personal and difficult situation. They are wise and profitable to us all here.

Footnote: We added a new member to our family, his name is Mason and he is the cutest little schnoodle puppy. He has been good medicine for our family.

Jim
 
I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your dog. It's an unexpectedly and unbearably painful thing to go through. I hope you'll take comfort in reminding yourself your dog was very likely incredibly happy and extremely well loved. A month ago, I had to put my seemingly healthy and active cat to sleep quite suddenly after having been with her for 15 years. I truly feel for you and offer you my deepest sympathies.
 
I'm so sorry to read about your loss. May you ponder the memory and the knowledge that not only was Barley man's best friend, you were the human that completed his friendship need. I'm sure Barkley's final thoughts were of how lucky he was to have had such an awesome master.
 
Sorry to hear the news Calcapt! It's an unbelievably strong bond formed between a dog and its master. I had to put mine down years ago and the memory of him still remains with me. I'm sure the same will ring true for you.
 
Thank you for all the kind words. I keep telling myself that he was just an animal and to move on; trouble is, I haven't had much success embracing that thought.
 
One of my dogs has been kinda spazing out lately. NOt sure what it's about. I looked down at him and realized that I wasn't ready to let him go since he is only 5. I'm not saying he is dying or anythign but just thinking about him havin some neurological disease made me pretty damn sad (he's had 2 seizures in the last couple months and is now acting kinda wierd). Kinda funny, in a non comical way, how much a pet can mean to us.

Sorry for your loss Calcapt.
 
calcapt said:
I keep telling myself that he was just an animal and to move on; trouble is, I haven't had much success embracing that thought.
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The problem is, a close dog (or cat I guess, although I'm not a cat person) is way more than "just an animal". They are your associate, they are your friend, they are you confider. A veterinarian I worked with long ago told me to treat the death of a pet just like the death of a friend. That way you don't feel embarrassed or silly about grieving and you can eventually move on.

The dog I grew up with lives at my mom's house and is pushing 15 now. Every time I go home I wonder if it will be the last time she's around. The hardest part about leaving isn't saying goodbye to my mom (who I know will be there next time go home) but saying goodbye to the dog.

Bill, I'm terribly sorry for your loss.
 
Calcapt, I'm sorry for your loss. The trouble with your sentiment is they never are 'just' and animal. My dog was part of my family, animal or not, an nothing could change that. Remembering the good times we had to this day puts a smile on my face, I hope the same is true with you and the memory of Barkley.
 
calcapt said:
Thank you for all the kind words. I keep telling myself that he was just an animal and to move on; trouble is, I haven't had much success embracing that thought.
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He wasn't just an animal, he was your friend. It's okay to miss him, give yourself time to grieve. Like someone else above said, you can know that he had a wonderful, happy life.

It's hard to lose a pet, they really are "one of the family".
 
Sorry about your dog, bro. Losing a dog is NOT easy at all. Kristie and I lost our Beagle about 8 years ago and I could still get her all "doughy" eyes about it to this day.
 
Sorry to hear about Barkley...so sad to hear such a tragic story :(

our animals are never "just" our animals...and it's strange that we feel so much more at their death than we might when people die....unconditional love is such a hard thing to lose and/or let go of...Let the grieving process through so you can heal and continue forth

and above all, let those around you help you heal, they are your stable rocks at times like these and will help keep you grounded :)
 
Doug Taylor said:
Sorry about your dog, bro. Losing a dog is NOT easy at all. Kristie and I lost our Beagle about 8 years ago and I could still get her all "doughy" eyes about it to this day.
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As you can tell, I have a soft spot for beagles too.

I didn't want this one (I travel too much), but can't imagine him not being here now.

Very sorry. Dogs are more than just animals. Mine would do more to protect me than most people I know.
 
Sorry about your loss, it's really tough, I know. The thing i carry away with each of my pet's departure was the knowledge that unlike dealing with other humans, a bond between me and my dog is unspokenly
'Until death do us part'.
If there's a doggie heaven somewhere, I'd love to have a chance to be greeted by those old souls again,...
 
Kristie said:
...Let the grieving process through so you can heal and continue forth

and above all, let those around you help you heal, they are your stable rocks at times like these and will help keep you grounded
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The irony is that it was Barkley that would usually share my woeful stories and make things better when his big brown eyes conveyed to me that everything would be OK. A wag or two of his little stubby tail would just reinforce and reaffirm the closeness of our bond. Talking to the cat just hasn't been the same.
 
depends on the type of cat....if your cat was used to having Barkley around, then he/she might also be going thru some abandonment stress and if so, give it a few days and the cat will probably want more of your attention, something of which you might enjoy. again, it depends on the cat though....

Believe it or not, when our lady died (beagle), our black cat sasha was pretty upset....so we ended up getting her a pet....now we have 3 and i'm still in the hope of getting another dog sometime soon to add to the "pets for a pet" rational HAHA :p
 
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