An interesting tidbit I heard on the ATC freqs that caught my attention years ago was an IFE in progress. In that instance, an aircraft declared an emergency in Class B airspace. The weather was broken CB with rain, enough-so that IFR aircraft were being vectored to instrument final, with no visual approaches being issued. The aircraft with the IFE (rough-running engine on a Cessna 421) couldn't understand why he wasn't getting immediate vectors to final to land, and why he was told to "stand-by" by ATC. He raised hell a few times about it to ATC. But there seemed to be, from my perspective, a few things he failed to understand about ATC and how they work. Now, I fully understand that anytime someone declares an IFE, they expect, and should receive, priority handling to the maximum extent possible. Keep in mind the last part of that sentence: "to the maximum extent possible." When someone has an IFE, their only worry is (rightfully) their aircraft and themselves, but they've got to understand why some things may happen that may not initially go their way. When an IFE gets declared to ATC, the controller's entire scope doesn't come to a grinding halt. He still has those (possibly) 10, 20, or more MTI "blips" to sequence and separate. Once someone declares an IFE, chances are, they've now thrown a monkey wrench into the controllers sequence/separation plan; they're a pain-in-the-ass now for all intents and purposes. He still has his other traffic to work while he works to prioritize the IFE, and may very well have to have the IFE "stand by" while he coordinates with other sectors/tower for the IFE, etc; this workload being possibly multiplied ten-fold if the WX is actual IFR due to sequencing needs and the lack of visual approaches/separation available. Often times, an IFE may just have to recover within the flow that's already in place. It's a crap-sandwich, I know, but you play the cards you're dealt, and they're rarely going to be four-of-a-kind Aces.
I can remember being in Korea and having a hydraulic malfunction/failure. Returning to base following declaring my IFE with the Korean ATC, and figuring I'd be able to recover quickly, I'm instead sent to holding with an EAC time, as I find out I'm IFE #7 in line........1 with an engine shutdown, 3 with min fuel, one with electrical problems being led in for a landing, one NORDO and inbound and will likely just be hitting the IAF for the HI-TACAN and immediately commencing the penetration track, and then me........the least priority emergency of the 7 of us who are declared emergencies; along with the other recovering fighters who, if given delays, will themselves become emergencies. All while the winds had forced ATC to turn the PAR dish around, and that took time to accomplish and setup. I was also held since when i was asked "fuel and souls onboard", it was determined I had ample fuel to hold in comparison to the other fighters that carried little and burned it too fast.