Lost This One Too

amjon

amjon

Pilot and A Half (for now
We found out on Friday that the baby had not grown at all since the last ultrasound (2 1/2 weeks) and no longer had a heartbeat. The doctor told us to come back today and he would do a repeat hcg to see what was happening. This morning I passed the baby. Please keep us in your prayers that we might have a child to bring home soon.
 
oh no I'm am sorry. I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers.
 
Wow, that's real sad to hear. I know you've been posting your trials and tribulations with this for a while, and I'm sure it's been real rough. Only thing I can say is that my older brother and his wife went through this same thing for a few years, and then she finally popped out my amazing little nephew about a year back. Keep you head up, talk to the appropriate fertility specialists, and keep trying. Prayers for you and your man.
 
We haven't had much 0f a problem getting pregnant; the babies just don't stay alive. The first was much later (27 weeks); this one died at only 6 weeks (just after we saw the heartbeat on the ultrasound). The doctor thinks this one may have been a chromosomal problem and is sending the tissue out for testing. He's running some more tests on me now. I've already had several blood tests for auto immune/ clotting problems and everything came back normal. They had me on some of the treatments that won't cause a problem if there isn't a problem (low dose aspirin and a B vitamin supplement).
 
This brings back some very heart-wrenching memories for me. My advice to you...if you and your husband are "normal", get into foster care. After numerous ivtro, "turkey-baster", and other trials. I told her flat out no more hormones...I wanted to grow old with her and she was putting herself through hell for this. We had our son for about 1 year in foster care, my wife finally relaxed, and it happened...

So, we got into foster care, go to Gulfstream initial, the wife comes up to SAV for a romantic weekend, and "9" months later, we are proud parents of a baby girl with an adopted big brother that turned 5 right before she was born (we finalized the adoption in Sep, and she was born in Feb). "Rent with the option to own" as I like to joke around, and both are ours with unconditional love...

Not saying it will work for you, but there are a ton of people it has worked for.

Trust me, I know it does not help in any way, shape or form with what you are going through, as we've been there, done that, have way too many t-shirts, and it sucks is all I'll say. Wishing you and your husband the best!!!
 
Thanks everyone. We'll be trying again soon. The doctor things it's likely a trisomy incompatible with life and is unlikely to repeat. I highly doubt DH and I have any genetic disorders that would be an issue as we're from totally different backgrounds.
 
amjon said:
. We'll be trying again soon. .
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Curiously, what's the rush? Your body has been through this twice now in a very short amount of time. Wouldn't it be wise to wait a bit, give things time to heal and get a full physical? Avoid having to post this a 3rd time, possibly?
 
MikeD said:
Curiously, what's the rush? Your body has been through this twice now in a very short amount of time. Wouldn't it be wise to wait a bit, give things time to heal and get a full physical? Avoid having to post this a 3rd time, possibly?
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The doctor sees no reason to wait. They've done some testing and haven't found anything so far. He said chromosomal problems are unlikely to repeat.
 
I think the biggest thing about trying again is how are YOU feeling? Pregnancy wreaks havoc on the body, the hormone levels are all over the board and can leave one an emotional wreck. I think how your body is feeling would be the biggest indicator of whether or not it's time to try again.
 
MQAAord said:
I think the biggest thing about trying again is how are YOU feeling? Pregnancy wreaks havoc on the body, the hormone levels are all over the board and can leave one an emotional wreck. I think how your body is feeling would be the biggest indicator of whether or not it's time to try again.
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After the last pregnancy I didn't have much of a problem, so don't think there should be for this one either. I was surprised I didn't get PPD since she did die, but I was fine.
 
They've found a possible cause (for the death of both babies) and have referred me to the endo. I'll find out more at our appointment in 2 weeks, but it looks like they can control it with medication.
 
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