Long distance relationships.

I'd hate to presume the worst, but a lot of people don't understand the feeling of being "marooned" when you're someplace with a heavy "sausage factor".

Like ERAU PRC. 12 guys to 1 girl, a town full of retirees. Pre-email. No Facebook. No mobile devices. Small town in the middle of Arizona. Aye!
 
Doug Taylor said:
Like ERAU PRC. 12 guys to 1 girl, a town full of retirees. Pre-email. No Facebook. No mobile devices. Small town in the middle of Arizona. Aye!
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Lots of people these days who don't know of life like that back then, when we had to create our own things to do, would probably commit suicide!
 
I don't think kids these days realize that back in the day, about all you could do was pile into a car and just go drive.

Where to? No where.

Bored drinking.

Shooting guns until you went deaf or ran out of ammo.

Watching VH1 as Joey was "entertaining company".

Hell, it got so bad at Riddle that we had a set of neighbors my sophomore year that would literally kick one another's ass, then walk over and invite us to join in. Aye. "Wanna play WWF? LET'S WRESTLE" "Uhh, how 'bout...... NO"
 
Doug Taylor said:
I don't think kids these days realize that back in the day, about all you could do was pile into a car and just go drive.

Where to? No where.

Bored drinking.

Shooting guns until you went deaf or ran out of ammo.

Watching VH1 as Joey was "entertaining company".

Hell, it got so bad at Riddle that we had a set of neighbors my sophomore year that would literally kick one another's ass, then walk over and invite us to join in. Aye. "Wanna play WWF? LET'S WRESTLE" "Uhh, how 'bout...... NO"
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Ahh......Rob Barris and his '70s pimped Corvette. I wonder how many patched-up holes were in that apartment they lived in?
 
How about sitting RSV before cell phones! The pager beeps, and you have to scramble to find a phone within 15 minutes... During that same timeframe I had an email address (and old USA.net address, one of the first web mails), but no home computer of my own to check it on. I had to go drive to a "Computer Bar" to use a computer!

Long distance relationships BEFORE the internet age... mega-expensive long distance phone calls & handwritten letters!
 
It seems we are on the right direction, however not out of the woods yet. I finally talked to her, she is going through a lot of crap, and understandably me on the island out here is exactly what I am, on an island out here...So time will tell.

Hand written letters? What are those? I remember going to boot camp 12 years ago and it wasn't a big deal, hand written letters. I didn't have a cell phone, let alone a computer of my own. I hate to see what it would be like these days 3 months of facebook, smartphone, ipad, youtube etc.
 
Really guys? My long distance thread has resulted in how sexy airplanes are? Ya'll are wrong. This sweetie right here is the knees bees.

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Best of luck man! Ive done a few of the long distance relationships and they never seem to work out for me. Then again, I dislike long phone chats and talking about a boring day.
 
MikeD said:
Lots of people these days who don't know of life like that back then, when we had to create our own things to do, would probably commit suicide!
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I've told it before, but '93-'94 I was in the Western Sahara while my wife was in Korea. No Internet. No phones. No cable or sat dish. Maybe an occasional HF phone patch to the US where the ham radio operator would call a DSN operator who would then do a DSN phone patch to Korea. "wurble wurble I really miss you hon, over" would be heard by everyone as "cover me with honey". Mail took four weeks each way. Heck, by the time I responded to a letter in which she was POed about something she had already forgotten and all I did was remind her that I was an idiot. Stupid satellite dish was off loaded from the the freedom bird that flew in to take me out.
 
Hawks said:
As most people probably know I'm out in the middle of nowhere. The whole reason I am here is I can back on my feet a get ready to move forward. A long the way my girlfriend and I decided to get engaged. I have been at Wake for almost a month now. At first the lines of communication were open. Now they are shut like the Berlin wall.

She said she had to move out of her apartment because of some BS. She is in the process of moving to a house with other college students. I know moving is hectic. She won't talk to me but for a few seconds. Should I back off and let the dust settle? Call back in a couple of days or wait for her to call?

It is frustrating being afar and not being able to directly do anything. Any input, tips, don't dos, or do dos would be appreciated.
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So, you are in your early 30's, living thousands of miles away, "getting back on your feet" (whatever that entails), and you're engaged? From my way of thinking, you've got no business even dating, let alone engaged to be married. Are you really engaged (i.e. you've given her a ring, and set a date)? Or is it one of those "someday we will" type of things?

What stuns me more is that there is a woman out there willing to accept these conditions.

Don't misunderstand. I am not attacking you. I'm just pointing out that, at this point in your life, you don't seem to have much to offer a potential lifemate in terms of what needs to be in place for a marriage to work (stable job, some money in the bank, future prospects, living in the same zip code). It would seem to me that you would both be better off if you put this relationship on hold until those things are in place.
 
O&M said:
So, you are in your early 30's, living thousands of miles away, "getting back on your feet" (whatever that entails), and you're engaged? From my way of thinking, you've got no business even dating, let alone engaged to be married. Are you really engaged (i.e. you've given her a ring, and set a date)? Or is it one of those "someday we will" type of things?

What stuns me more is that there is a woman out there willing to accept these conditions.

Don't misunderstand. I am not attacking you. I'm just pointing out that, at this point in your life, you don't seem to have much to offer a potential lifemate in terms of what needs to be in place for a marriage to work (stable job, some money in the bank, future prospects, living in the same zip code). It would seem to me that you would both be better off if you put this relationship on hold until those things are in place.
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Thank you for your input. I agree this is much less than ideal conditions. At this point I am not trying to dissolve my relationship. How I arrived at this point is irrelevant. Not everyone has a cookie cutter evolution. However I am trying to maintain some sort of stasis.
 
Greetings everyone. I have reached a state of equilibrium from what can be expected from here. A lot of stuff happened on the other end. Although I think it could have been handled more efficiently, but we are working on our communication. Thanks everyone for your support, commentary and input.
 
Well, I had this whole long thing that I wrote before...But to sum things up, when it comes to women,believe half of what you hear, and don't sleep with both eyes closed, rest with one eye up.. My .02

Don't drive yourself nuts man.And if you don't want to be in a situation, don't put yourself in one!
Good luck and all the best.
 
Hawks said:
As most people probably know I'm out in the middle of nowhere. The whole reason I am here is I can back on my feet a get ready to move forward. A long the way my girlfriend and I decided to get engaged. I have been at Wake for almost a month now. At first the lines of communication were open. Now they are shut like the Berlin wall.

She said she had to move out of her apartment because of some BS. She is in the process of moving to a house with other college students. I know moving is hectic. She won't talk to me but for a few seconds. Should I back off and let the dust settle? Call back in a couple of days or wait for her to call?

It is frustrating being afar and not being able to directly do anything. Any input, tips, don't dos, or do dos would be appreciated.
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Dude. It's definitely shady. Having said that, don't count it out or throw the whole thing away. You really just have to keep yourself occupied and try not to think about her. If you're calling her all of the time and she's only talking for a few minutes, that's definitely a bad sign. The truth in life is that each person will do what they want to do. If she wanted to talk to you, she would. You really just have shift the security of the relationship (i.e. just stop talking to her and do your own thing). She needs to realize that you are a great part of her life in which she can vent to and share things with. In order to convince her of that, you just need to not talk to her for a while. She'll come back around if she cares. If she doesn't, well.... that's not the girl for you.
 
Hawks said:
Greetings everyone. I have reached a state of equilibrium from what can be expected from here. A lot of stuff happened on the other end. Although I think it could have been handled more efficiently, but we are working on our communication. Thanks everyone for your support, commentary and input.
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So?

Girl for you, or not girl for you? (yes.....bored where I am in middle of nowhere) :)
 
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