Doesn't surprise me.
The LSO can see that something unusual is happening, and is simply being directive to help.
This isn't any different than the RSU calling out "in the flare, go around, use burners" at an SUPT base....or a wingman calling "abort" or "recover".....or a WSO calling "go around!"
I have never landed on a boat, so I don't know what the standard LSO contract is. I have to imagine that such comm is standard when the margin for error is just so slim and the LSO can see that things aren't going as planned.
I was a squadron qualified paddles so I have some knowledge of being an LSO. The wave-off call was mandatory...a line-up call is mandatory....a power call is mandatory....the gear up call was advisory or simply trying to help a bad situation.
I met Kara twice, once while stashed at Top Gun and once in Pensacola, and I'm not saying I knew her. I've heard the same though, a below average pilot as far jet flying goes, pushed into the cockpit as a post 91 Tailhook way for the Navy to heal itself in the eyes of the public. I don't know though the mishap board did conclude it was pilot error. Unfortunetly, flying behind the boat is not always a cut and dry way of doing business. A compressor stall and engine failure IM-IC (in the middle to in close) is going to be a very, very difficult thing to do deal with, regardless of who is behind the stick....especially if you lack single engine training.
Back at VRC-30, I served with a female pilot who was below par...well below par. She eventually got to average but took 3 to 4 times as long as anyone else. Luckily, she was flying a two seat aircraft with two sets of controls...then again, I was the nugget while she was the AC. It's known now that her performance in advanced flight training was way below average. She had issues from the start, multiple downs and in reality, should never have been winged....or at least a male counterpart would not have been winged. My old Skipper of VRC-30 was the Ops O at VT-4 which was the advanced squadron for all E2/C2 pilots at the time. He tried his best to boot her but word came down that she would make it through no matter what....NO MATTER WHAT!!. Granted, she wasn't going to be a jet jock but still, a tailhook pilot and made the Navy look good by having another female tailhooker. Maybe the powers that be were right, she never had a mishap due to pilot error on her part (much better pilots have) and she always made it back. Just took her much, much longer than the average joe.
The problem with female pilots are they are few and far between. Might be only 10, a very small number, but when 2 are bad...which my guess is 10-20% is the norm for all pilots, they tend to stick out more. I've flown with several female pilots, both in the C-2 and in the T-34C as an IP. I've seen both good and bad, more good than bad. But putting someone where they don't belong was not a good thing to do, at all.