In iraq and now she wants to leave me
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buellrider
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Kick her through the uprights.
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You're good man, you're good! Can't slip anything past the great Modasaurus!
ozziecat35
4 out of 5 great lakes prefer Michigan.
She's not worth it brother. Same thing happened to me when I went into the military with my ex-gf. It was all, I'll love you forever, yada yada...Then she starts hanging out with the manager at the restuarant she worked at more an more, they're good friends and all that bs. Someone said it earlier, some woman are going to do the right thing and support their guy while he's deployed (or her, not being sexist here...you get the picture) and others aren't mature enough to handle being a grownup in a grownup situation. I vote for maturely ending it with her, and move on with your life. You'll look back on it with at least a smaller sense of regret and heartache (It doesn't really ever stop...I've been happily married for 3 years, but it still hurts when I think about what she did, almost 7 years ago.)
Thanks for your service man, Move out and draw fire, hooah!
Thanks for your service man, Move out and draw fire, hooah!
Orange Anchor
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First thing, long distance and these days, keeping the spark alive seems impossible. FWIW, I got a dear john tape in Vietnam. Funny sentences started showing up before she said, "I MAY have found someone else." May? Found?
Anyway, it sounds like she is outbound and picking up speed. It hurts no doubt. One way to handle it is to get photos from the guys in your unit of their girlfriends and send them to her. Ask her to please identify which one she is as you are having trouble remembering her and want to respond to the right one.
USMC-SSGT
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As others have said, she already left you.
There is no sense salvaging it. She is just being nice and hoping that you will initiate the finalization.
May want to punch your "buddy" in the nose though when you get back for taking such good care of your girl when you get back.
There is no sense salvaging it. She is just being nice and hoping that you will initiate the finalization.
May want to punch your "buddy" in the nose though when you get back for taking such good care of your girl when you get back.
Firebird2XC
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Oh- yeah, be sure to nail your ex's best friend when you get back, if you can.
Make sure to tell them both afterward that the best friend was better, hotter, whatever.
Feel free to piss in her Cheerios. It'll balance the sense of justice. You'll feel better.
Make sure to tell them both afterward that the best friend was better, hotter, whatever.
Feel free to piss in her Cheerios. It'll balance the sense of justice. You'll feel better.
Just don't end up like the spouses at Ft Bragg....
Firebird2XC
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Yeah... uh.. homicide is not acceptable.
I don't care WHO did what to WHO or whatever.
Screwed over by your mate? Fine, leave. Done.
Kill your mate? Spend the rest of your life getting screwed in prison. Not good.
I say stop calling her altogether. Let her stew on it. If she is confused, starvation will either set her striaght, or make her realize she doesn't need you. And the same will happen with you.
Finding the right woman is only a matter of your BS and her BS being compatible enough to not matter. I hate drama, and bottom line is you don't need this while your in another country. As for your buddy....I call BS. He's is "taking care" of your old lady while your out man. At least thats my opnion. Ditch them both, and trust your gut. Gut feeling are almost always right. I'd rather trust my gut than second guess it and have it eat me up for years to come. Besides, there are plenty of ladies out there to be had.
Finding the right woman is only a matter of your BS and her BS being compatible enough to not matter. I hate drama, and bottom line is you don't need this while your in another country. As for your buddy....I call BS. He's is "taking care" of your old lady while your out man. At least thats my opnion. Ditch them both, and trust your gut. Gut feeling are almost always right. I'd rather trust my gut than second guess it and have it eat me up for years to come. Besides, there are plenty of ladies out there to be had.
Firebird2XC
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I disagree with the first part. If his general absence to a war zone isn't enough to make her miss him, not calling won't really matter much more.
She's a loser, and so is this guy's buddy. Both get the bum's rush, and he moves on.
I see your point, but I don't think you see my thought process. If he stops calling her, it's gonna hurt less evensooner if/when it finally goes cold. And it seems like it already is. Cut the strings early, and move on.
Same point I think, just a different way around the bush.
Firebird2XC
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jeepthrills
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Sorry Bro...Wish I was closer to where she is...Id run Recon for you.
Stay focused!
Stay focused!
Lefty
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Hey brother man, relationships generally are a pain in the ass for anyone and everyone who is/has been deployed. There are two types of girls, ones who can handle a man in the military and ones that can't. It should be apparent to you which category she falls into. Like others have said be thankful you aren't tied to anyone more than emotional strings at this point. I wouldn't play any games with her or Mike, just let it go. You have more important things to lookout for, like yourself.
I'm unsure of whether this is your first deployment or not, but don't dwell on stupid crap. Make the best of situation and know that everything your doing is making you a better person.
I'm unsure of whether this is your first deployment or not, but don't dwell on stupid crap. Make the best of situation and know that everything your doing is making you a better person.
Patty Torres
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From a woman's point of view and only my .02.......
You are away risking YOUR life for OUR freedom and she seems to be playing head games that you DO NOT need at this point.
You need to focus on what you are doing, you CANNOT be thinking what ifs while you are trying to fight for freedom.
She is spending a lot of time with your supposedly best friend, it might just be platonic right now, but it will probably turn into something else probably sooner than later.
I think you should forget about her and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and respect what you are doing for OUR country, she sounds like she don't respect herself let alone another human being.
You are away risking YOUR life for OUR freedom and she seems to be playing head games that you DO NOT need at this point.
You need to focus on what you are doing, you CANNOT be thinking what ifs while you are trying to fight for freedom.
She is spending a lot of time with your supposedly best friend, it might just be platonic right now, but it will probably turn into something else probably sooner than later.
I think you should forget about her and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and respect what you are doing for OUR country, she sounds like she don't respect herself let alone another human being.
SeatClutcher
Pasta.
That's awesome.
Impregnate her on R&R's!
No... really...--2x for me.
My dad did that to my mom. :hiya:
Sorry to hear you're going through this. Relationships end regardless, but during a deployment is double-suck. I'm not a guy, but for what it's worth, my vote is to let her go. It's too hard to try to fix things (if you were to want to do that) from there...emails get misunderstood, phone calls are stilted, there's all the pressure... Too much.
If she's not into the relationship the way the "right" one for you would always be, she's clearly not the right one. If it didn't happen now, it would have happened later. Adios.