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ASpilot2be
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Sorry to hear that
mnixon
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Makes you realize that there are more important things than shady people also. Trust me, you'll look back and thank the skank for doing that to you.
All the time, but I do it, it's a job.
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mnixon
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xactly, give it a month or two and you'll be fine. The best thing you can do is act like she doesn't even exist. If you run into her, make it a point to ignore her. The poo on your shoes means more to you than her, that's the attitude you have to take, and she needs to know it. Oh, beer and easy women are a good fix too.
FatBastard
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Man I feel for you. Do whatever it takes to get her out of your system. have you ever thought since she got this new guy so quickly, she may have been cheating on you?
Like Mnixon said, don't look back. Women outnumber us 10/1. I'm sure you will find someone better than her.
Hell if she can't stick around for the rough times, you don't need her. Do whatever grief process you have to, but be determined to finish up, and move on to better things. You will, including someone who appreciates you, however test her out first, and remember, take your time to get to know the person first, don't rush. Sounds likeyour EX has a problem with loyalty, and can be treacherous, do you really want someone like that in your backyard?
Take care
bwade210
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I've been in similar shoes before man. All I can say is right now it may seem as if the whole world is messed up and girls totally suck, but you have to realize and one day you will that this girl no matter how good looking or "sweet", she was not someone that deserves you or that you should be with. Trust me...your better off!
brent p h
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Don't feel bad buddy. At 35 I am going through the same thing! AHHHHH nothing a couple nights of barhopping here in Dallas won't cure!
Mattio
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Yea man, the best thing to do if you want to have her back in your life is to pretend like you are enjoying life and are busy with other things and other girls. It'll drive her bonkers for you.
On the other hand, the best thing to do regardless of whether you want her back or not is to actually be busy with other things and other girls. Go to the club and try to talk to as many girls as possible, that's what I do
On the other hand, the best thing to do regardless of whether you want her back or not is to actually be busy with other things and other girls. Go to the club and try to talk to as many girls as possible, that's what I do
Huh?
Last I checked the population was pretty much 50/50.........Back to the topic: Sorry that happened. You're better off without her, (breaking up at the holidays? Sheesh). Don't worry, there's plenty of other people out there to meet. Don't stay home cryin' in yer beer. Get out there and do stuff YOU enjoy!
NotCoolEnufToFly
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Wow, you guys must have never broke up with anyone?!
I understand he's feeling really bad and he's hurt right now, so we're all trying to support him and help him see that there are going to be brighter days but why does that always have to include trash talk about someone we don't know?
I don't know her either so I'm not necessarily defending her, maybe she is a horrible person, who knows, but the point is that it happens, people break up. It's better than continuing on in a relationship she may not have been happy in and ending up married with a couple kids and being miserable her whole life, making his life miserable too right? And who's business is it if she started dating someone a week after they broke up. She broke up with him. He no longer gets a say. That doesn't mean she was cheating and it doesn't matter anymore anyways, so no need to focus on it. It may be a coping mechanism for her just the same as how you all were giving him the advice of getting back out there and dating other women. I've broke up with people I loved before because I knew that there was no way in hell the relationship could ever work. Love isn't the only thing needed to make a good life with someone. So who knows maybe the breakup hurt her too and she's out there trying to ease the pain. I don't know what her reason or motives are for it, but my point is, neither do you guys. And I'm sure none of you have broke up with someone and found yourself out with another girl a couple of months later? Does that make you "shady" "skanks???"
Don't ever let your focus be making her miserable because you'll just be making yourself miserable in the meantime. As long as your reason for not calling and finding other women to date are to make her miserable, SHE is still your focus and you won't heal. YOU be your focus. Do those things because it's best for you. Picking at a scab just makes the wound heal slower. The more you worry about her the harder it'll be. Not saying you can't be sad or think about her...
I second that! Take her number out of your phone (not that you don't already have it memorized) it will prevent drunk dials b/c either you cant remember it at the time or you will think about how you shouldn't be calling her. Works like a charm
skidz
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I'm sorry to hear that man, I know how it feels. Since you've been together for so long, I assume you've had a good relationship, perhaps the kind of relationship she won't find again, so try to look at it as her loss and not yours.
