You'll be able to feel it when you start to get too slow. You won't know a precise numeric value, but based on how the airplane is flying at that point you'll be able to tell when you're on the ragged edge. Best bet is to keep the speed up, and if you want to use flaps only use a single notch. If you're out of the ice, a single notch of flaps might give you a helpful bit of lift to slow up a little. It all depends on the plane and on the conditions. When you're in those conditions, remember, speed is your friend, but don't go off the end of an icy 6000' runway when you came in at 150Kts instead of 90 and couldn't force it on in time. If you need to, feel it out on the way in to land, find out where the airplane feels the worse someplace other than on short short final. Also, remember that if you're a less than salty pilot that what you consider to be a "lot of ice," may or may not be. Just use common sense. In the words of a man with way more experience than myself, "talk like your balls need a wheelbarrow, fly like they haven't dropped."