Fiance doesn't want to move -
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kellwolf
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Man, this thread just reminded me how lucky I am. I have close to $10K in an account in FL. Since that's Sallie $&#& Mae, they won't transfer it to another school. It's a school I really like, and I've gotten all of my ratings so far. Add to that I have a good chance of getting a job as an instructor there, and it's almost a no brainer. But, my wife and I can't afford to totally pick up and move back AGAIN, and the kid is due in April. Nessa knows how much this means to me, so she's told me (in no uncertain terms) to get my @ss down to FL, get finished and get my hours in so I can move on. She's behind me 110%. Luckily I still have SWA benefits until July, so I can fly MCO-BHM and drive over to see her.
The point is, if you want a career in aviation, make sure your SO wants it as badly as you do. Otherwise, you'll wind up with one or the other, but not both.
Man, this thread just reminded me how lucky I am. I have close to $10K in an account in FL. Since that's Sallie $&#& Mae, they won't transfer it to another school. It's a school I really like, and I've gotten all of my ratings so far. Add to that I have a good chance of getting a job as an instructor there, and it's almost a no brainer. But, my wife and I can't afford to totally pick up and move back AGAIN, and the kid is due in April. Nessa knows how much this means to me, so she's told me (in no uncertain terms) to get my @ss down to FL, get finished and get my hours in so I can move on. She's behind me 110%. Luckily I still have SWA benefits until July, so I can fly MCO-BHM and drive over to see her.
The point is, if you want a career in aviation, make sure your SO wants it as badly as you do. Otherwise, you'll wind up with one or the other, but not both.
Vingus
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Re: Fiance doesn\'t want to move -
You are going to have to compromise. I did it with my wife as I spent 13 years in the Air Force. She promised to move around with me until my committment was up, then I promised to get out and move to her home town. The long distance thing would have been a disaster, as I'm sure one of us would have wandered into someone else.
I had to make my wife understand that I would eventually give her what she wanted, for her to go along with me all those years.
And I also made sure each assignment I took was agreed upon by both of us (as much as I had control, which wasn't a ton). Compromise will have to be part of your life if you want to marry a girl with her own aspirations. Or you could just marry some woman who just wants to stay home, push out babies, and get rediculously fat due to depression.
Good luck, and selfishness is not going to work if you want to marry a smart girl.
You are going to have to compromise. I did it with my wife as I spent 13 years in the Air Force. She promised to move around with me until my committment was up, then I promised to get out and move to her home town. The long distance thing would have been a disaster, as I'm sure one of us would have wandered into someone else.
I had to make my wife understand that I would eventually give her what she wanted, for her to go along with me all those years.
And I also made sure each assignment I took was agreed upon by both of us (as much as I had control, which wasn't a ton). Compromise will have to be part of your life if you want to marry a girl with her own aspirations. Or you could just marry some woman who just wants to stay home, push out babies, and get rediculously fat due to depression.
Good luck, and selfishness is not going to work if you want to marry a smart girl.
FlavorFlav
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Re: Fiance doesn\'t want to move -
Being to young and naive to know anything about marriage, I have only one thing to say. It's alot easier to keep the girl if you have some $$$ to support her with, and having some $$$ to live on usually leads to a longer marriage, since it's not so stressed all the time, ya know? So basically, try to get a (somewhat) stable job in aviation somehow first so you can actually make some money to support her in the first place! But anyways good luck and there's my two cents.
Being to young and naive to know anything about marriage, I have only one thing to say. It's alot easier to keep the girl if you have some $$$ to support her with, and having some $$$ to live on usually leads to a longer marriage, since it's not so stressed all the time, ya know? So basically, try to get a (somewhat) stable job in aviation somehow first so you can actually make some money to support her in the first place! But anyways good luck and there's my two cents.
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Being to young and naive to know anything about marriage, I have only one thing to say. It's alot easier to keep the girl if you have some $$$ to support her with, and having some $$$ to live on usually leads to a longer marriage, since it's not so stressed all the time, ya know? So basically, try to get a (somewhat) stable job in aviation somehow first so you can actually make some money to support her in the first place! But anyways good luck and there's my two cents.
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"Making money" and and "stable job" in the same sentence as aviation?
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Being to young and naive to know anything about marriage, I have only one thing to say. It's alot easier to keep the girl if you have some $$$ to support her with, and having some $$$ to live on usually leads to a longer marriage, since it's not so stressed all the time, ya know? So basically, try to get a (somewhat) stable job in aviation somehow first so you can actually make some money to support her in the first place! But anyways good luck and there's my two cents.
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"Making money" and and "stable job" in the same sentence as aviation?
FlavorFlav
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Being to young and naive to know anything about marriage, I have only one thing to say. It's alot easier to keep the girl if you have some $$$ to support her with, and having some $$$ to live on usually leads to a longer marriage, since it's not so stressed all the time, ya know? So basically, try to get a (somewhat) stable job in aviation somehow first so you can actually make some money to support her in the first place! But anyways good luck and there's my two cents.
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"Making money" and and "stable job" in the same sentence as aviation?
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I know, fur real, thats the point tho. Develop your career first, then if the girl is still interested once your settled a bit in your life, see if she still wants to run!!
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Being to young and naive to know anything about marriage, I have only one thing to say. It's alot easier to keep the girl if you have some $$$ to support her with, and having some $$$ to live on usually leads to a longer marriage, since it's not so stressed all the time, ya know? So basically, try to get a (somewhat) stable job in aviation somehow first so you can actually make some money to support her in the first place! But anyways good luck and there's my two cents.
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"Making money" and and "stable job" in the same sentence as aviation?
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I know, fur real, thats the point tho. Develop your career first, then if the girl is still interested once your settled a bit in your life, see if she still wants to run!!
Maximilian_Jenius
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Being to young and naive to know anything about marriage, I have only one thing to say. It's alot easier to keep the girl if you have some $$$ to support her with, and having some $$$ to live on usually leads to a longer marriage, since it's not so stressed all the time, ya know? So basically, try to get a (somewhat) stable job in aviation somehow first so you can actually make some money to support her in the first place! But anyways good luck and there's my two cents.
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Incidently... aren't you like 14-15 yrs. old? I.E. take his advice liberally....
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Being to young and naive to know anything about marriage, I have only one thing to say. It's alot easier to keep the girl if you have some $$$ to support her with, and having some $$$ to live on usually leads to a longer marriage, since it's not so stressed all the time, ya know? So basically, try to get a (somewhat) stable job in aviation somehow first so you can actually make some money to support her in the first place! But anyways good luck and there's my two cents.
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Incidently... aren't you like 14-15 yrs. old? I.E. take his advice liberally....
-Matthew
flyover
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Or you could just marry some woman who just wants to stay home, push out babies, and get rediculously fat due to depression.
Good luck, and selfishness is not going to work if you want to marry a smart girl.
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I think that's the key to remember here. Your choice is between smart girls or dumb, fat girls who just want to raise a family (in which case selfish is OK). Choose wisely.
Then the second wife is a whole different thing.
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Or you could just marry some woman who just wants to stay home, push out babies, and get rediculously fat due to depression.
Good luck, and selfishness is not going to work if you want to marry a smart girl.
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I think that's the key to remember here. Your choice is between smart girls or dumb, fat girls who just want to raise a family (in which case selfish is OK). Choose wisely.
Then the second wife is a whole different thing.