my wife is supportive of the 90 program, god bless her, and our thinking here is that 3 mos of absence might be more bearable than 6 mos of mostly-absence coupled with daily 3 hour commutes, etc.
Let me give you some advice since your married and have kids- don't rush this. You will kick yourself in the end. This career will have you away from home more then you'd probably like with the kids growing up, school plays, sports etc. If you start to rush, and starting thinking that you'll only be away for 3 months, then you're going to disappointed. Going that route will have you away from home much longer then 3 months. Because soon you'll be saying, well we only have to sacrifice 2 months, and 1 month. Then you get hired and now you need sacrifice another 3 months from home during training. Then you may not get the base you want and now you're away more and more.
TRUST ME, slow down and put your family first. I'm not saying give up on the career, not even close. But don't leap into the fire with the 90 day program then jump right into working there then jump right into an airline.
When I looked at it, I told my wife that I'd be away for 2 months, then home for awhile. Well I ended up being away for 3 months (60 PPL+Weather). Then I was home for a month then gone for 3 weeks straight (CFI school). Then I got hired and instructer in Jax for 1 month, then HEF for 5 months. I kept telling myself "Just one more month then I'm home." It doesn't really work like that when you are trying to get into the industry quickly.
Looking back, I wish I went to a local FBO. I wish I didn't finance what I did. I wish I spent more time at home rather then giving up my life to get into this industry so fast. Because now as a Regional FO, I love to fly but I'm more about money and time at home with my wife.
You have kids and a wife. Take it slow. Try to train locally. If you really want to go to ATP, then do the 10 month program and just fly as much as you and your instructor can if thats what you want. Your CFI won't have a problem with you wanting to fly alot. They don't get that much flight time anyway. Once you finish the program, than take it from there.
My advice though is not to sell your soul to the Aviation Devil. Take care of your family first and work hard towards your career at the same time. It will all work out and you'll end flying for a good Regional hopefully based close to home, that way you're not away as much. But keep in mind that with this career, you'll be away half of your life. No need to jump right into that just to get your ratings. Enjoy the learning part. I know I did, but if I had to do it over again I would have slowed down a bit. From starting ATP to Regional Airline job took me just under 2 years, but I spent almost an entire year away from home. Not good when you've got a family.
