I recently wrote an article on the aircraft speed issue. ATC can only waive the speed requirements under 91.117b, the other ones can only be exceeded if waived by the Administrator (such as IAH, and ATC is NOT the Administrator) or under the auspices of 91.117d.
As to how do I know, well, there are letters of interp, but not handy for me here in TPE today. However, absent that, just consider: if 91.117d was NOT applied the way I stated, then all the large heavies would have to leave their slats/flaps out to stay under 250kts below 10k. That is absolutely not the case, and you can probably find the .65 reference from the ATC perspective on this to support what I am saying.
As for the 800-2 issue on ILS critical areas, I can't recall if that is listed in the AIM, but I do not recall it being listed under pilot responsibilities in any event. Shouldn't be too hard to trace that one down. If pilots are responsible, it would state it in the AIM or CFR.