girlfriend issues

Re: True Story

Velocipede said:
The formula is the same for women and children. Give them their freedom and if they come back, its all good.
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What? How did children get pulled into the mix? (And why on earth are they lumped with women?)

Set some children free, have you? Did you drop them at an exit far, far away? ;)

The "set it free and if it comes back to you" thingy is pretty true for all humans.
 
Sorry to say this friend, but I have been in the same spot during my time in the service.
In a nutshell , someone else has caught her eye and she is seeing him while trying to figure out how to get rid of you nicely!

"Don't come home I have some schoolwork"??????? Come on friend, wake up and smell the coffee. The train has left the station and you ain't on it!

You need to get closure on this and I'd be asking some pretty straight questions - no need to get emotional just talk to her. If she wants to tell you she will and if she can't then its time to move on.

Sorry to be negative but I smell a rat on this one and trust me I did all the same stuff you did and eventually I got the truth which sucked, and dammit I spent all that money on expensive dinners and cabs and such!

Good luck - it will sort itself out in the end!
 
My exgirlfriend didn't even do it nicely. I knew something was wrong because she seemed withdrawn and next thing you know it's the old "I'm seeing someone else". I gotta tell ya, it was a pretty big slap in the face. Needless to say, I was done with her after that.
 
gomntwins said:
My questions: First off, I don't know what a break is... anybody?
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Take a break means be with other people with out cheating. Trust me there is some one else or atleast the thought of some one else.

Also, where should I go from here? She wasn't as negative about us this time around... but it's not positive. She already has agreed to meet me from dinner in a couple weeks. I'm fairly confident I can convince her back. Any ideas on how to prove myself?
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Don't trap her. She wants some cuddle time w/ some one else let her go. If she wants cuddle time with you again she knows where to find you.

She knows I love her... she knows how hard I'm trying... but she doesn't know if we're right. This has been a fairly problem free relationship for a long time-- but not anymore. I'm giving her what she wants... I'm not acting all stalker or anything... I gave her space last time around... but did my best to stay in her life-- calling every few days, etc. It worked-- although not really. Any ideas? I'm really confused. Where should I go from here?
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Look for a new GF. Start dating again. This sounds very Dr Phil, but ultimately you have to be happy with yourself to get through this. You can't control other people, but you can control yourself. Do what it takes to make you successful and the rest will follow. Hope it turns out for the best for you.
 
Re: True Story

SeatClutcher said:
The "set it free and if it comes back to you" thingy is pretty true for all humans.
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What? Set it free and if it comes back, to you, it's meant to be. If it doesn't come back, hunt it down and kill it?











BTW, It's a joke people.
 
There could be other contributing factors to her behavior, not just another romantic interest. When does she defend her thesis? Is she behind in her research? Does she have a committee member that is disagreeable or not supporting her research decisions? What are her plans after she finishes graduate school?

At the end of a long academic road (I have been there) there are a lot of questions about who you are actually becoming and where you will fit into life. You have finally become the person you have been molding yourself into for many, many years. Who you are when starting an advanced degree is not who you become over the course of obtaining it. An entirely different person walks out of commencement compared to the one who walked in the first day of the program.

My point, it does not have to be another person, it might just be where she is in her own life. If you want to stay with her, you need to have patience and give her space to become comfortable with who she has matured into. She cannot be anything to you if she is not satisfied and comfortable in her own life. Sometimes support needs to be in the form of silence.

If it is another person, I am sorry. You will hurt regardless and will need to find a way to move on.
 
darrenf said:
As old as this thread is, I'm betting he already has. ;)
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So what if it was started April 13th. So I am late, as usual. ;) There are others who were nearly as late. What am I doing in the Family Life section anyway?????? Gotta go.
 
Toria said:
So what if it was started April 13th. So I am late, as usual. ;) There are others who were nearly as late. What am I doing in the Family Life section anyway?????? Gotta go.
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I wasn't picking on you, others could have said the same thing you did, I just didn't read what they said. Something about your avatar makes me interested in what you have to say. :p
 
darrenf said:
I wasn't picking on you, others could have said the same thing you did, I just didn't read what they said. Something about your avatar makes me interested in what you have to say. :p
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I can take anything you dish out. :D I am usually on the dishing side, so turn is always fair play. ;)

The avatar photograph was taken about nine months ago. My hair is currently shoulder length because I donated it to Locks of Love a week ago. So, go a bit shorter and you have the new me!
 
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