I know exactly where yer coming from. Started my commercial in spring 07 as well. Just finished my CSEL add on to my multi rating. Took me about 80 hours total to get my initial commercial multi. But I ended up going through 8 instructors when they got hired out. Each one wanted to do at least 10 hours of flight which was really FRUSTRATING. So I figured it would've been 10 or 20 something but now I have more multi time in my log book and less money. I needed to go on a diet anyways :/
Had the same problem because every instructor wanted to see something different or performed differently. Then I finally said screw it I'm going by pts period. I made every flight with my last instructor the practical flight portion of a checkride. Took about 1.5 every flight to do all the maneuvers at least once or twice. From short or soft field t/o, steep turns, chandelle, power on/off stalls, lazy eights, steep spiral, eights on pylons, and then short, soft field landings with a final pwr off 180. I found in that order the flight went about 1.5 ish for my CSEL.
My multi check ride was kind of a stressing but I was prepared for it. Power on and off stalls, vmc demo, short and soft fields, steep turns and then the examiner failed an engine and we went through some emergency procedures, restarted, shot an approach back in and failed my engine again after the fix, handeled that as well.
My CSEL ride was simplized because I had already done most of the oral in the multi explaining factors affecting vmc and doing a cross country and diversion. It was mostly scenarios as a cfi, and going over the pts for the maneuvers explaning why we do each and how. which I found kind of odd because I plan on taking my cfi next month.
I found that short/soft field landings as with any are all in the set up. As soon as you get abeam power needs to come out. At least 12-14 inches maybe less bleed off some airspeed to Vfe and get the first notch in. once you turn base get the second in, I had the problem of leveling off and loosing my descent rate when I turned downwind to base. Then chopping and dropping when I turned final. If your set up and ready just abeam the numbers the landing should come naturally. If you're too close and high just go around, an examiner would rather see that than a forced landing in my opinion.