I'll tell you what I used to tell my students: I'd 100x rather see you come in on approach speed, maintain directional control and land on the centerline and in the touchdown zone than anything else. Slam it in there if you can do all of the above, I don't care! A good landing is a consistently safe landing regardless of how much you bump it (unless you are porpoising.)
Once you realize -- hey, I am on approach speed, hey I am on the centerline, hey I am in the touchdown zone, hey these landings are safe if rough -- then you'll stop worrying about it so much and finesse will come with practice.