thanx for all the info and ideas. we're still trying to figure it all out, i'd just hate to spend the $1500 for RT for us and find i could have nonreved for nothing. then again we'd be even more upset if we got stuck at the airport for a couple days.
couple other options:
1.) i've noticed that there are four daily flights to Hawaii from LAX on Delta. LAX-OGG, LAX-HNL, LAX-KOA, LAX-LIH. loads don't actually look that bad from what i've seen. but then again i've only been looking for a couple days, so i'll take Kristie's word that there are lots of nonrevers. if we could catch one of those, then take the superferry from whatever island we end up at to the one we have a room, or just take take an inter-island flight it might work out. got a cousin in LA so we could try and get there and then let the games begin.
2.) might try and see how hard it is to nonrev to LAS from BUF. LAS to HNL or OGG is only like 400/each RT so thats not so bad. give ourselves a buffer, nonrev to LAS a couple days before, if we make it the first day we get a room and gamble for a night or two, then positive space from LAS-Hawaii and vice-versa.
3.) ignore the fact we don't make much money, bite the bullet and buy tickets from buf-ogg. walk on beach, drink beach type drinks, get married, do that which married people do, rinse-repeat for a week or so.