girlfriends...

This might sound a bit brash, but good riddance.

Better to know she's like "that" now, rather than later.

This time, you didn't lose a house, half the retirement and alimony.
 
Don't let this stuff get to you man. You still have two arms, two legs, and a heartbeat...that means two things. You could get a job flying and you are most likely the next target for Lindsey Lohan to make out with. Things are looking up for you. I'm guessing you are a young fella that just ran into a wealth of free time and now have the funds to get around to a little more of that flyin'. Buck up, lil camper!
 
This should be a time for celebration. You're single again.
Whose calling the stripper? I'll get the keg! Cigars anyone?
:bandit:
 
slpilot said:
god my gf of 4 years broke up with like two weeks ago, right around christmas and already has a new boyfriend. GAHD life sucks some times...

...makes you realize that theres more important things in life than flying
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My girlfriend of just over a year broke up with me just when I was about to start the sim portion of training. She's already engaged to a new guy whom she happened to decide she wanted to go out with after she broke up me. Awesome.:nana2:
 
Thanks guys, this place brings your spirits up when youve had a rough night. What goes around comes around in my opinion, and shell figure out her lose soon enough.

Now whose got the beer and the cheap women?...:bandit:
 
slpilot said:
This forum gives a good boost at a right time. Ive thought many things about her, Ive also learned to stop thinking so much. Thanks for the support guys. Just a crappy way to start a new year, yaa hearrd. :buck:
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actually, it's probably the best way to start your new year :nana2:

who needs people like that! now, you've got an entirely new year to get to improve and find out who you are and what your "new" likes are. have fun meeting new/better ladies... and be more picky too!
 
NotCoolEnufToFly said:
Wow, you guys must have never broke up with anyone?!:rolleyes:

I understand he's feeling really bad and he's hurt right now, so we're all trying to support him and help him see that there are going to be brighter days but why does that always have to include trash talk about someone we don't know?

I don't know her either so I'm not necessarily defending her, maybe she is a horrible person, who knows, but the point is that it happens, people break up. It's better than continuing on in a relationship she may not have been happy in and ending up married with a couple kids and being miserable her whole life, making his life miserable too right? And who's business is it if she started dating someone a week after they broke up. She broke up with him. He no longer gets a say. That doesn't mean she was cheating and it doesn't matter anymore anyways, so no need to focus on it. It may be a coping mechanism for her just the same as how you all were giving him the advice of getting back out there and dating other women. I've broke up with people I loved before because I knew that there was no way in hell the relationship could ever work. Love isn't the only thing needed to make a good life with someone. So who knows maybe the breakup hurt her too and she's out there trying to ease the pain. I don't know what her reason or motives are for it, but my point is, neither do you guys. And I'm sure none of you have broke up with someone and found yourself out with another girl a couple of months later? Does that make you "shady" "skanks???"





Don't ever let your focus be making her miserable because you'll just be making yourself miserable in the meantime. As long as your reason for not calling and finding other women to date are to make her miserable, SHE is still your focus and you won't heal. YOU be your focus. Do those things because it's best for you. Picking at a scab just makes the wound heal slower. The more you worry about her the harder it'll be. Not saying you can't be sad or think about her...
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I'm the king of getting broken up with, as you can probably already tell, I'm a dick. Yea, it hurts, but why sit around and mope in your own sadness. Get out there and start up the 70's van wit shag carpeting and get back in the game baby!

And when is the last time someone broke up with you and had nothing but nice things to say? They hurt you, therefore they get called names, it's the way the world works.

slpilot said:
Thanks guys, this place brings your spirits up when youve had a rough night. What goes around comes around in my opinion, and shell figure out her lose soon enough.

Now whose got the beer and the cheap women?...:bandit:
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I heard Mike has a good lead on some trashy NE ladies who'll do anything for some Saux tickets.

mikecweb said:
This should be a time for celebration. You're single again.
Whose calling the stripper? I'll get the keg! Cigars anyone?
:bandit:
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I'll bring the Cohibas.
 
I agree, people that hurt me and people I care about arent getting high praises, call it immature but name calling is the easiest way to go, so they get the names.

And I could prolly get a high class hooker to fulfill my fantisies for less than what it cost to get those damn rehd sox tickets these days..
 
Who needs high class? Saran Wrap your body and go nuts, I want a full write-up tomorrow morning. Go get em tiger. Set up a pay-pal account and I'll contribute to your debauchery.
 
SLP, i'm sorry to hear bro...Dig up my post in this forum that I wrote a couple days ago called "the higher road". I just went through a devestating break up, and I know how you feel. But ya gotta keep going on.

It hurts...It hurts really bad, but know you are not the only one to experience this pain. For the past couple weeks i've felt like a walking zombie. I'd try and keep my daily routine, but there was nothing inside me. I wore a fake smile, and sometime last week I decided to tell myself, I dont want to live like this anymore. It sucks, but it is what it is, and you have to accept it, and take the positive things you have learned, and continue on with your life. Don't look back in anger. Forgive her; as hard as it may be, and continue on.

Whatever you do, don't call her and bioch her out. She prolly deserves to hear it, but be the bigger man, and hold back that anger and aggression. I found it to be very good for myself to simply thank her for the good times we had and wish her goodluck. Did she deserve to hear any of that? No, prolly not. But I was always taught that you treat people the way you want to be treated, and even though being the bigger man is a harder raod to take, it will be worth it in the end.

My best advice I could give you would be to rid yourself of anything that reminds you of her...Especially telephone #'s. If you keep it in your phone, your going to be tempted to call her (especially drunk). I also think if you leave it in the phone, subcounciously (sp), you will always be hoping and waiting for a telephone call from her which may or may not happen.

What I did was copy her phone #, e-mail address and home address on to a piece of paper and sent it to my mom to hang out to. Just incase I ever want to try and contact her again in the future, which I may, or may not do...

Just keep buisy, think about all the good things you have in life, and kick some arse.

Let me end with this, and hopefully its not too bitter, but I think the whole "soulmate" thing is a load of crap. Theres over a billion other women on the planet. If you met em all, you would think theres millions of "soulmates" out there...It's all about compatibality, and you will find that again. Don't think you wont.
 
Let me say one more thing, and I think this especially prevelant in pilots. We have a lot to offer, and we like to be in the position to offer to everyone else. Unfortunately, a lot of the time we neglect to reach our full potential, because we get too caught up in trying to give the world to another person(s). Reach your maximum potential, and kick arse in your own life, and when you do start another serious relationship, it will be that much better, because you have allowed yourself to reach full potential.

It's natural to feel sad, and mourn and you should...Don't just try and forget about whats going on and repress your feelings. That will just be worth it in the end. Take whatever time you need, but remember to keep moving forward, and don't feel sorry for yourself....
 
MikeOH58 said:
SLP, i'm sorry to hear bro...Dig up my post in this forum that I wrote a couple days ago called "the higher road". I just went through a devestating break up, and I know how you feel. But ya gotta keep going on.

It hurts...It hurts really bad, but know you are not the only one to experience this pain. For the past couple weeks i've felt like a walking zombie. I'd try and keep my daily routine, but there was nothing inside me. I wore a fake smile, and sometime last week I decided to tell myself, I dont want to live like this anymore. It sucks, but it is what it is, and you have to accept it, and take the positive things you have learned, and continue on with your life. Don't look back in anger. Forgive her; as hard as it may be, and continue on.

Whatever you do, don't call her and bioch her out. She prolly deserves to hear it, but be the bigger man, and hold back that anger and aggression. I found it to be very good for myself to simply thank her for the good times we had and wish her goodluck. Did she deserve to hear any of that? No, prolly not. But I was always taught that you treat people the way you want to be treated, and even though being the bigger man is a harder raod to take, it will be worth it in the end.

My best advice I could give you would be to rid yourself of anything that reminds you of her...Especially telephone #'s. If you keep it in your phone, your going to be tempted to call her (especially drunk). I also think if you leave it in the phone, subcounciously (sp), you will always be hoping and waiting for a telephone call from her which may or may not happen.

What I did was copy her phone #, e-mail address and home address on to a piece of paper and sent it to my mom to hang out to. Just incase I ever want to try and contact her again in the future, which I may, or may not do...

Just keep buisy, think about all the good things you have in life, and kick some arse.

Let me end with this, and hopefully its not too bitter, but I think the whole "soulmate" thing is a load of crap. Theres over a billion other women on the planet. If you met em all, you would think theres millions of "soulmates" out there...It's all about compatibality, and you will find that again. Don't think you wont.
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What a great post.

(don't give up on soulmates...you just haven't found yours yet. :) )
 
MikeOH58 said:
SLP, i'm sorry to hear bro...Dig up my post in this forum that I wrote a couple days ago called "the higher road". I just went through a devestating break up, and I know how you feel. But ya gotta keep going on.

It hurts...It hurts really bad, but know you are not the only one to experience this pain. For the past couple weeks i've felt like a walking zombie. I'd try and keep my daily routine, but there was nothing inside me. I wore a fake smile, and sometime last week I decided to tell myself, I dont want to live like this anymore. It sucks, but it is what it is, and you have to accept it, and take the positive things you have learned, and continue on with your life. Don't look back in anger. Forgive her; as hard as it may be, and continue on.

Whatever you do, don't call her and bioch her out. She prolly deserves to hear it, but be the bigger man, and hold back that anger and aggression. I found it to be very good for myself to simply thank her for the good times we had and wish her goodluck. Did she deserve to hear any of that? No, prolly not. But I was always taught that you treat people the way you want to be treated, and even though being the bigger man is a harder raod to take, it will be worth it in the end.

My best advice I could give you would be to rid yourself of anything that reminds you of her...Especially telephone #'s. If you keep it in your phone, your going to be tempted to call her (especially drunk). I also think if you leave it in the phone, subcounciously (sp), you will always be hoping and waiting for a telephone call from her which may or may not happen.

What I did was copy her phone #, e-mail address and home address on to a piece of paper and sent it to my mom to hang out to. Just incase I ever want to try and contact her again in the future, which I may, or may not do...

Just keep buisy, think about all the good things you have in life, and kick some arse.

Let me end with this, and hopefully its not too bitter, but I think the whole "soulmate" thing is a load of crap. Theres over a billion other women on the planet. If you met em all, you would think theres millions of "soulmates" out there...It's all about compatibality, and you will find that again. Don't think you wont.
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I agree with you on the soulmate thing, there's a lot of people out there, and I refuse to believe that when I was born, God already knew my wife was. Relationships, especially marriage, is a hard thing and it takes work to make it last. Eharmony is crap
 
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