Trip Length & Home Life

phill1174 said:
It took a few days to put myself out there but I feel this is the best place so here I go…

Has anyone dealt with the amount of time on the road changing the dynamics of their home life? Since 2976 here at Brown particularly in my base we’ve been seeing a lot of 7-8 day trips. There’s a few lines with them back to back with a day off in between equating being gone 13-14 days. I had that last month and this month. Apparently being more senior doesn’t work 🙃

Long story short my lack of presence at home isn’t going unnoticed, and this is coming from a partner who is self sufficient and does their own thing even when I’m home. Tbh the amount of time gone sucks the motivation from me going to work even without my partner mentioning it. I’ve never been a fan of long trips but knew what I was getting into coming to the cargo world. It’s also why I never bid international here. Personally after 5 days I’m ready to be done.

TBH I’m not sure what I’m asking here other than venting and wondering if anyone else has dealt with the blues of being gone from home for an extended period of time.
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So, my two and a half year stint in SLC, was this close to ending Jason and I. It was too much for him, me too to a point, but he was just sitting around, going stir crazy and alone with his thoughts, and posting stuff on FB about the cats, three times a day. Where as I was working and going to school, I was busy and focused. He was idle. Idle minds and all. I got a call one night, where he was crying and he yelled at me that I need to hurry up and finish school, or else. To this day I don't know if in his boredom, he met a new friend, or not and was low key telling me, warning me. You're not here, but someone else is. I can't prove that and I didn't want to ask, because then I'd know and have to deal with. So, I didn't.

There were many considerations to me quitting aviation, this was a huge consideration. I didn't want to have to go on the road for over a year to do low time building stuff, to build hours, like aerial photography. Or move to some small town in Kansas for flight instructing, for an indeterminate amount of time to build hours. Which I knew that the time and the distance, would be the death knell of my then relationship, and now marriage. That stuff is for young single people. You and your partner's relationship is strong, when I see you both together. I trust that things will get better, for the both of you.
derg said:
It can be tough.

My wife is cat-like, she loves her free time and I think she largely tolerates me around the house for the most part. :)

Maybe your partner doesn't feel included in your work life? Maybe call a little more often and "data dump" a little bit so they know you're not just shuttling around the world in first class, doing no work and someone throws money at you for nothing.

Plus, it may be helpful (somewhat) if you got your partner connected to another person who is with another pilot to bounce ideas off of or a little guidance. They're familiar with Kristie and I'm sure she'd take the call or text anytime. ILL MAKE HER!! :)
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She told me once, I think it was sometime last year. He's always gone, and I'm always here... alone. While he's on fabulous trips in Seoul, or Japan.

Ope!

I told her to call her Midwest sista girl, since they're so much alike, and both their men are always working. But I don't think that she wants to bother Jason.
 
Maximilian_Jenius said:
So, my two and a half year stint in SLC, was this close to ending Jason and I. It was too much for him, me too to a point, but he was just sitting around, going stir crazy and alone with his thoughts, and posting stuff on FB about the cats, three times a day. Where as I was working and going to school, I was busy and focused. He was idle. Idle minds and all. I got a call one night, where he was crying and he yelled at me that I need to hurry up and finish school, or else. To this day I don't know if in his boredom, he met a new friend, or not and was low key telling me, warning me. You're not here, but someone else is. I can't prove that and I didn't want to ask, because then I'd know and have to deal with. So, I didn't.

There were many considerations to me quitting aviation, this was a huge consideration. I didn't want to have to go on the road for over a year to do low time building stuff, to build hours, like aerial photography. Or move to some small town in Kansas for flight instructing, for an indeterminate amount of time to build hours. Which I knew that the time and the distance, would be the death knell of my then relationship, and now marriage. That stuff is for young single people. You and your partner's relationship is strong, when I see you both together. I trust that things will get better, for the both of you.

She told me once, I think it was sometime last year. He's always gone, and I'm always here... alone. While he's on fabulous trips in Seoul, or Japan.

Ope!

I told her to call her Midwest sista girl, since they're so much alike, and both their men are always working. But I don't think that she wants to bother Jason.
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I remember talking to you about that. Thankfully it’s not that bad. It’s more so “is this the new normal?” Which knowing this place who knows. And if this is the new normal how are we gonna adapt to it.

For us it also helps that we’ve been together since the beginning of me starting this career so we were able to grow and adapt to the scheduling aspect of this career vs. it being a new thing overnight.
 
phill1174 said:
I remember talking to you about that. Thankfully it’s not that bad. It’s more so “is this the new normal?” Which knowing this place who knows. And if this is the new normal how are we gonna adapt to it.

For us it also helps that we’ve been together since the beginning of me starting this career so we were able to grow and adapt to the scheduling aspect of this career vs. it being a new thing overnight.
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Yeah, I wasn't thinking that, that conversation had been had at all. Just relating my experience to your current situation. I guess that I forgot that I'd already shared it with you. Ya'll are pretty tight and a good match. Your partner too quiet IMO. Lol. But so is mine in public. But I love talking to your partner when we meet up, because everyone is talking to you bout' plane stuff. And I don't want your partner to feel left out. I like making your partner laugh though. It's always good to see the both of you, wish we could do it more often, but you're in Nogalas.

If it makes you feel better, in my two year absence, Jason stole all my cats! They don't pay me no mind, nan one of em. Unless he's asleep, or gone or at the gym, or out of town. Then they're like oh, look its the spare.

• them cats! All of em!
 
Maximilian_Jenius said:
Yeah, I wasn't thinking that, that conversation had been had at all. Just relating my experience to your current situation. I guess that I forgot that I'd already shared it with you. Ya'll are pretty tight and a good match. Your partner too quiet IMO. Lol. But so is mine in public. But I love talking to your partner when we meet up, because everyone is talking to you bout' plane stuff. And I don't want your partner to feel left out. I like making your partner laugh though. It's always good to see the both of you, wish we could do it more often, but you're in Nogalas.

If it makes you feel better, in my two year absence, Jason stole all my cats! They don't pay me no mind, nan one of em. Unless he's asleep, or gone or at the gym, or out of town. Then they're like oh, look its the spare.

• them cats! All of em!
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We definitely all gotta get together again soon. There’s some birthdays coming up so I’m sure it’ll happen soon.

Wait until he hears about @derg trip to Micro center. That’ll get him going. I imagine when we’re talking about plane stuff it’s like Charlie Brown listening to the teacher.

You’re the spare parent now 🤣
 
phill1174 said:
We definitely all gotta get together again soon. There’s some birthdays coming up so I’m sure it’ll happen soon.

Wait until he hears about @derg trip to Micro center. That’ll get him going. I imagine when we’re talking about plane stuff it’s like Charlie Brown listening to the teacher.

You’re the spare parent now 🤣
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If Microcenter had a bar, it'd be the perfect meet 'n greet location!

Shots shots shop shop!
 
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