I both agree and disagree, it is partly a decision, but that decision is harder to make if say you're commuting to a crash pad in NY while you're missing every important moment in your kids life. Some things just suck and if you're life is nothing but suck, I do not fault a person for not being "happy".
Hey again, not hating you at all, again I was extremely fortunate in that the Air Force shielded me from basically all of the negative aspects of building an aviation career all through my 20s. For me, up until now it has been worth it. I want for nothing and at least in Ohio, I'm doin a-ok. I reflect every day on the 40 year old dishing food out at Chipotle, changing bed pans as a nurses aid. There are a million worse things I could be doing all of which make 40k a year or less.