"Pilots have girlfriends in every city they go to."

Maximillian_Jenius said:
Not sure if I missed the sarcasm. But I have to disagree. I easily equate F/A's and nurses in the same category. Meaning that they can go bat shizzz crazy at the speed of Drake. 0-100.

At work I often see a lot of nurse/psych tech, nurse/doctor relationships. They always end up pretty bad. Not all but like a heaping majority of nurses at least in the psychiatric field. Not sure about medical. are bat shizz crazy. And have severe emotional issues, and in most cases on the same meds as the patients. I understand that it's easy to date where you work because you see the person day in and day out. But nurses and F/A/'s kinda have the reputation/stereotype of being crazy, clingy, man hating, co-dependent, cat ranchers.

I say see and avoid.

Example: A nurse at work was having an affair with one of the psychiatrist. She was poking holes in the condoms, at least according to the rumors. She got pregnant, he left his wife for her, she was crazy. And she started emotionally blackmailing him at first to leave his wife. Then when he did, she kept blackmailing him emotionally saying if he didn't do this or that, she's abort their baby, or hurt herself. It basically turned out that she was a gold digging, manipulative borderline. The psychiatrist had to ultimately seek an order of protection, social services got involved for the child's sake, and she ultimately ended up getting fired for stalking him.

How many of us haven't heard the same stories about flight attendants. Probably an exception to the rule, or an extreme example but I say see and avoid.
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So so so so so glad to be married.
 
Maximillian_Jenius said:
Example: A nurse at work was having an affair with one of the psychiatrist. She was poking holes in the condoms, at least according to the rumors. She got pregnant, he left his wife for her, she was crazy. And she started emotionally blackmailing him at first to leave his wife. Then when he did, she kept blackmailing him emotionally saying if he didn't do this or that, she's abort their baby, or hurt herself. It basically turned out that she was a gold digging, manipulative borderline. The psychiatrist had to ultimately seek an order of protection, social services got involved for the child's sake, and she ultimately ended up getting fired for stalking him.

How many of us haven't heard the same stories about flight attendants. Probably an exception to the rule, or an extreme example but I say see and avoid.
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If a man with that type of experience and knowledge about dealing with crazy people, can't see crazy coming at him, what hope is there for the rest of us?
 
I mean with Tinder and OKCupid, it's totally attainable if you have loose standards, confidence, and a sense of humor. I'm sure most of the shallow guys out there can attest that many very pretty girls tend to demand a lot of time and attention since they have their pick and get bored easily, thus making it difficult to have more than 2-3 in the "pool". If you can swing it, props, but when I hear a guy is banging more than 2+ chicks, first thing I think now is, "Ah, so quantity over quality". Hook ups are another story as if you're in the right place a the right time and you happen to look up just as the rebound is coming off the backboard, anything can happen. Still, I think people who haven't had multiple partners at once underestimate how time consuming and difficult it is, really it's like being glued to your phone for a part time job. It's honestly very stressful. Again, it's possible, but to make it work you would need to date some very gutter casual hookup types who aren't much for the talking and that most of us wouldn't want anyway, which takes away most of the appeal. I'm sure there is the 1% who "live the dream" and literally bid their overnights around having several pretty girls across a few cities, but not nearly enough pilots live that life to do any justice to the stereotype. At least in the US. Flying for Vietjet or similar it would be a lot easier, the only credible stories I've heard about that stuff have been from Expats in SE Asia.

JordanD said:
Don't put your dipstick in crazy.
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I'd still be a virgin, I'm sure most of us would be.
 
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My friends step father worked as an Engineer on the railroad and he told me of a story about a guy that worked for Union Pacific or one of the other lines that runs into Canada. Well, they had a guy that two families on both sides of the border. He worked a trip that would take him to Canada once a week for a few days and would return on the same line. Well, supposedly he kept both families for 30 years. The cat came out of the bag when he retired and had to choose sides. From what he told me, he wasn't the only one that had something like that going.
 
CFIscare said:
Ain't that the truth. The more I am around other women, the more I appreciate my wife.
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I'm happy for you married guys, really. As fun as it is be single, I've always been at my happiest when I loved someone and they loved and supported me. You can't beat that. Only issue is the one's that I found attractive enough to want to tie down end up being mean, and the one's I could have stayed with I wasn't ultimately very attracted to. Quite a thing to find someone you can be content spending your life with, and I would say far more pilots I know fall into the group the same group as you and @Screaming_Emu than the "rowdy womanizer" group(If 'womanizer' implies success not attempts anyway) .
 
Maximillian_Jenius said:
Are you hinting that you want me to be your Phoenix thing? Twist my arm about it, c'mon.
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#nohomo

I actually know a rather nice woman in PHX. Sorry man. ;)

Cal Goat said:
As a married man, I'd only say that if you're single you don't have a girlfriend in every city, you're wasting an amazing opportunity.

That, or fooling around with some of the prettier FAs.
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It is pretty nice, as detailed below, to be able to hang out with an amazingly attractive woman and not have to worry about perceptions.

This said: I envy you and the wife and the kid sometimes, truthfully. You and B. are some awesome people and the kid is just amazing.

Screaming_Emu said:
So so so so so glad to be married.
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Yeah, well. As you know, airplanes do not keep you warm at night, no matter how fun they are.

And aviation-induced divorce syndrome scares the ever-living piss out of me.

Screaming_Emu said:
No...just don't.

Amirite @Autothrust Blue or do you need to learn this lesson again. :p
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I took a hike today with one of our gals, with whom I am solidly in the "friend zone," just spontaneously. It was pretty cool as a single guy to go and hang out with an awesome person who happens to be very attractive and female and not have it be a "thing."

It's like any other cross section of the population, though: there are a handful - and it really is limited to a handful - that I consider "wife material," another slightly broader selection that I would date, and the vast majority, while perfectly pleasant to work with and drink beer with on overnights, don't arouse that level of interest.
 
ChasenSFO said:
I'm happy for you married guys, really. As fun as it is be single, I've always been at my happiest when I loved someone and they loved and supported me. You can't beat that. Only issue is the one's that I found attractive enough to want to tie down end up being mean, and the one's I could have stayed with I wasn't ultimately very attracted to. Quite a thing to find someone you can be content spending your life with, and I would say far more pilots I know fall into the group the same group as you and @Screaming_Emu than the "rowdy womanizer" group(If 'womanizer' implies success not attempts anyway) .
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I forget how old you are, but things change - significantly - when you get into the 27-30 age range. At least they have for me.

Suddenly, being responsible is a thing, not being a totally yoked "brah."
 
Cptnchia said:
If a man with that type of experience and knowledge about dealing with crazy people, can't see crazy coming at him, what hope is there for the rest of us?
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They're just as nuts. Much like the number of paramedics I've seen in my time who are drug addicts or alcoholics. :)
 
Autothrust Blue said:
It was pretty cool as a single guy to go and hang out with an awesome person who happens to be very attractive and female and not have it be a "thing.
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Let's be real man, if you think she's pretty, and you spend time alone and get along great, there's always a thing. Most of my best female friends fit that awesome to spend time with and pretty to look at bill and have dedicated boyfriends they would never cheat on which doesn't matter because I'm so deep in the friend zone I forget what the sun looks like. But there is still a thing.

Autothrust Blue said:
I forget how old you are, but things change - significantly - when you get into the 27-30 age range. At least they have for me.

Suddenly, being responsible is a thing, not being a totally yoked "brah."
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I'm 24, but I see your point. Maybe if I didn't keep dating girls who were 21-22 I wouldn't have these problems, but they're the ones I seem to attract. Which is odd as it usually turns out the yoked out "brah" with no strings attached is what they really want.
 
ChasenSFO said:
Let's be real man, if you think she's pretty, and you spend time alone and get along great, there's always a thing. Most of my best female friends fit that awesome to spend time with and pretty to look at bill and have dedicated boyfriends they would never cheat on which doesn't matter because I'm so deep in the friend zone I forget what the sun looks like. But there is still a thing.
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Possibly. We'll let the base gossips do their thing and happily still have it not be a "thing." ;)

Normal people are not free at 2pm on a Thursday to go gallivanting in the wilderness.

I'm 24, but I see your point. Maybe if I didn't keep dating girls who were 21-22 I wouldn't have these problems, but they're the ones I seem to attract. Which is odd as it usually turns out the yoked out "brah" with no strings attached is what they really want.
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Stop that. It's silly.
 
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