Bad News :(

amjon

amjon

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I went to my new OB today for a preconception appointment (I was hoping first prenatal, but still too early to test). I had the records from the midwives and the hospital sent as I wanted him to have all information. In the hospital, I was told there was a 99.9% chance that Taylor died because of an umbilical cord accident (knot and wrapped around neck). I was not given any other possible causes/ concerns. My new OB reviewed the last ultrasound they did and saw that her fluid level was very low. He said when the fluid is low there is usually a reason and it is likely what killed her. He thinks it may have been pre-eclampsia (which I was in the hospital a few days earlier to be evaluated for and sent home- wonder why they didn't bring that up?!!) or an auto-immune disease. He wants to pin the cause down as there are things we will need to do with a new pregnancy. He said he would start me on blood pressure meds when it reaches 140/90 (or less) instead of waiting until the normal 150/100. He said if it is auto immune there are others meds I would need to take. He also wants monthly ultrasounds starting at 20 weeks and non-stress tests.
 
I wouldn't say that was bad news - sounds like he is taking a very cautious approach to your next pregnancy. I wouldn't dwell on the cause of your previous pregnancy, he probably bought these up solely to explain his cautious approach for the next time round.
 
I_Money said:
I wouldn't say that was bad news - sounds like he is taking a very cautious approach to your next pregnancy. I wouldn't dwell on the cause of your previous pregnancy, he probably bought these up solely to explain his cautious approach for the next time round.
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I say it's bad because it's hard to deal with the fact that her death may have been prevented. It is good to know that we need to prevent it in the future though. I'm glad he went through the records and didn't just take the hospital OB's word that it was UCA though. It would have been nice if I had been told that there were other issues at the hospital though. There were some tests they could have run at that point that could have helped determine cause of death better.
 
I have a son who was diagnosed high-functioning autistic, and the other is ADHD. I wonder constantly if their issues are something that could have been prevented, something I did/didn't do... all the what ifs and whys. Bottom line though, is that it happened. And as awful and sad as it is, all that you can do now is move forward. You are already taking the exact steps you need to do your very best to ensure that your next pregnancy will be different. That is all you can do now. I know it's hard to let go of the whys, what ifs and could haves... but a wise man once told me that worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it don't get you anywhere.
 
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