We're talking about standards for two different things. It's one thing to be able to hold airspeed, altitude, fly an aerobatic maneuver, or hit your bombing target, and it's a whole other thing to not allow yourself to be distracted during a tight approach and stall/spin the airplane while trying to impress your girlfriend. In the latter case, the pilot had the skill to avoid the accident but wasn't using it, and it's not clear that a hot shot military pilot is any better than a private pilot at avoiding this sort of accident. The macho attitude that I'm referring to is the attitude that this sort of thing can be trained away by practicing physical skills, rather than acknowledging human failability and focus on the decision-making that led up the accident. The fact that many highly skilled pilots have crashed airplanes by making simple mistakes suggests that more skill isn't the cure.