Whoa! You have endured tremendous loss. I can only imagine what it feels like. I'm truly sorry.
Well, this forum isn't intended for this kind of discussion... but I stand by what I say, no matter what: a ticket is a ticket. No matter where a pilot gets it, a piece of paper (for example) that declares her a multi-engine rated commercial pilot with instrument priveleges simply allows that person plenty more chances to kill themselves. Period.
I, human error, Newtonian physics nor the FAA give a sh*t which school they got it from, and that is an immutable fact. Taking it further: you can train a monkey to fly a Seminole, even teach it to fly the PTS and get a rating, but you can't make it a pilot.
A ticket doesn't make a pilot.
Flight schools don't make pilots, either. Bungling "mortals" with some regimented training, a damned good head on their shoulders, and the ability to translate as many errors (both their own and made by others they've read about) into good judgment int he future without breaking laws, planes or bones make THEMSELVES pilots. The worst part? Even the best ones die flying.
A ticket is a ticket.
That's my point. Just find the place that gets you there the best way possible.