Tough times lately.

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Ugh. It has been a rough couple of weeks. Started with my wife being in an accident and totaling our car. Two days after that, I was helping wing walk our Caravan (sort of the boss's baby) and we crunched the tail on a forklift, putting it down for a week waiting on parts and maintenance. Shortly after that, my grandpa, the man who funded my college and who by flying us down to Florida to visit him when we were little got me hooked on airplanes passed away. Now our cat is sick, and the meds the vet gave us a couple weeks ago have stopped working. She didn't eat even touch her food that I put out tonight. At 14 years old it looks like its about time to say goodbye to her. Somewhere in the middle of it all both my wife and I went through the 24 hour stomach bug.

Lots to be thankful for in all of it, she was fine in the wreck and so was the baby she is carrying (due in May!), we found a mechanically sound car with low miles and just a little bit of body damage, and nobody got in any big trouble for the deal at work. In all of this the wife and I have not had any trouble between us-its just made us pull together even more which is awesome. Needless to say though both of us are ready for the new year.
 
Your grandfather sounds like he was a great guy with his priorities in the right place. I am sincerely sorry to hear that you lost such a wonderful person.

While the passing of the cat is sad, there is one bright light. We do not let them suffer while awaiting the inevitable.

Best wishes for a brighter tomorrow.
 
Kittycat died this morning. Not gonna lie, Sarah and I were both crying our eyes out.
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I'm sure things will get better. My thoughts and prayers for you with your grandfather and cat.

As far as the car...it is a machine and did what it is supposed to do..protect your loved ones.

Congrats on expecting. Your first?
 
Thanks guys. I can't believe how hard a time I'm having with the cat. I guess it doesn't help that I got all of about 4 hours of sleep last night tending to her. Sarah is taking it even harder since she had the cat since she was a kitten 14 years ago-so she'd been with the cat much longer than she's been with me! Crazy how attached we can get to animals.

As for my grandpa oddly that didn't hit me as hard at least at first since I had hardly seen him in the last 10 years but I do look back very fondly on the times we had when I was little. He made out very well with a AT&T retirement and with investing and definitely spoiled us grand kids, but also insisted that education and smart money handling were very important. I wish I could go back and do some of the things that used to be treats for us when we were little-like going out to eat at a greasy spoon on a Saturday morning or drinking root beer floats on the back deck.

I'm on lunch at work and my eyes are watering again-must be the MEK-so that's all I've got for now.
 
Cats and Dogs will break your heart every damn time. Little comfort now, but we love our pets, they are part of our family. I know they enrich our lives, and I like to think we've enriched theirs.
 
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I'm pretty attached to my cat and I'll most likely outlive her. I look at it this way. For every cat that had a loving home and loving human there is one in a shelter that may have a death sentence. I think my cat would be honored if I went and saved one from the shelter as a way to remember her. I know cats don't think that way but it makes sense to me.
 
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Thanks guys. I can't believe how hard a time I'm having with the cat. I guess it doesn't help that I got all of about 4 hours of sleep last night tending to her. Sarah is taking it even harder since she had the cat since she was a kitten 14 years ago-so she'd been with the cat much longer than she's been with me! Crazy how attached we can get to animals..
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Pets are family, to a degree almost more than people are. Mainly because they have no agenda, aren't judgemental, have no ill will, and are simply there for you. They just accept you for who you are, and do their best to be there for you.

I'm sorry for your loss. And I understand it well.
 
I am very sorry to here of your hellish week. Man, when crap happens, it happens in spades sometimes. I am also relieved to know your wife did not sustain any serious injuries and that your baby is well. That must have been just nerve racking.

The loss of your Grandad. I am so sorry. We are never prepared for the loss of a close relative. A part of him though still lives on in the lessons that he taught you, the experiences that you shared together and in all the memories. The love you feel for him and that he felt for you, will never, ever die. Love goes on forever. Our bodies, just give out. But what we have created, what we were and what we became, lives on in our children and grandchilden. You will carry a part of him always, just as your own child will carry a part of you.

And the loss of your cat.........it is so hard when we lose our dog or cat....I understand. I have shed gallons of tears and been become physically ill over the loss of my furry companions. When we lost Sue's previous cat, I have rarely seen anyone so completely enveloped in sorrow, inconsolable and grief stricken. They were that much in love and that bonded. She got her when she was just a few weeks old and lived with her for 16 and a half years. That is a huge chunk of anyone's life.

Our pets are often our best friends, in truth. They are pure in their emotions and all they want from us is to be with us and love us. They trust us emphatically and depend on us. They are often better behaved, more reliable, more honest more loving and accepting than most people. They bring so much joy, fulfillment and happiness into our ordinary days.

It is hard to let them go and we miss them terribly. All we can say to comfort ourselves is that we gave them the very best life that we could and gave them the very best of ourselves. When the time is right, another cat will find a way into your heart. It is never exactly the same, because animals, like people, each have their own personalities and traits, but the love is the same and that is in the end, what counts. You will never lose the connection or the memories of your other baby, but you will at some point, be able and ready to make new ones with another.

I am so sorry for your loss, all the stress and the huge crap fest of bad circumstances.

Are you ready to come home?
Oh, yes, quite so, replied the precious soul
And, as a cat, you know I am most able
To decide anything for myself.

Are you coming then?
Soon, replied the whiskered being
But I must come slowly
For my human friends are troubled
For you see, they need me, quite certainly.

But don't they understand
That you'll never leave them?
That your souls are intertwined. For all eternity
and you will live in their hearts forever?
That nothing is created or destroyed?
It just is....forever and ever and ever.

Eventually they will understand,
Replied the little cat
For I will whisper into their hearts
That I am always with them
I just am....forever and ever and ever.
 
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I still cry like a baby when I think about the kitty cat we had when I was growing up. Got him as a kitten when I was 4, I don't remember life before him, and he lived til I was 19 and in my first year of college. Was the saddest day of my life when when he had to be put down. I know it was the kindest thing to do, he couldn't suffer anymore. It was time for him to go. He lived a long, happy life with us, and it was just time for him to move on.
 
MikeD said:
. They just accept you for who you are, and do their best to be there for you.
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Even when that means pawing at your face at oh dark thirty because they think it's time to eat, or blocking your book or computer with their furry body because they want pets, or burying their face in your breakfast cereal the moment you turn your back or all the other adorably obnoxious things I'm missing right now.
 
I've seen wonderful and special things emerge from darkness and tragedy. It doesn't make today easier, but maybe, just maybe, some of this will make sense with time.

I'm hoping your future will improve soon.
 
My condolences to you, Roger. Losing a pet, or a loved one is always a difficult thing. On the bright side, a new year is almost upon us. Prayers that things will go better in the new year.
 
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