You sometimes have to wonder about posts like this one. How are CFIs teaching stalls so that so many students are frightened by them?
For remembering the steps, put the maneuver in context rather than trying to memorize them. You're simulating a stall during the landing process. So, you are setting up for a landing =exactly= the same way that you will set up to descend from the pattern. The specifics vary a bit based on the airplane and instructor style variations, but in general they are
1. Before landing check .
2. Power reduction
3. Flaps as specified
4. Establish a power off landing descent.
That's the basic set-up. You pretend there's a runway in front of you and start down to it.
5. Be a bad pilot. You decide that you are too low and need to stop descending. A good pilot would use coordinated pitch and power inputs to level off a bit. But you're a bad pilot, so you try to stop the descent only using the yoke.
That produces the stall by increasing the angle of attack so that it first reaches, and then exceeds the critical angle of attack.
6. At the appropriate point (depending on whether you are being asked to perform a full or imminent stall), reduce the angle of attack so that it's no longer critical. A lot of people push the nose down to the ground. That =is= scary and completely unnecessary. Level flight pitch does the job in most trainers. That ends the stall.
7. As you reduce the angle of attack, add full power and bring the flaps to the recommended intermediate position (that depends on the airplane. in a CE-172 it's the 20° position. The angle of attack reduction is what ends the stall; the power and partial clean-up is what keeps you from losing more altitude and starts you climbing away from the "runway"
8. As your airspeed increases and you climb away from the "runway", continue cleaning up the airplane (like reducing flaps) and establish a normal climb.
That's it in a nutshell. BTW, I mentioned that the set up was just like a landing? Well, if you want to see what the recovery should look like once you reduce the angle of attack, go to the checklist and read the procedure for a go-around.